How do I get family & friends to stop feeding my 5mo.-old inappropriate foods like Oreos & yogurt?

Marie - posted on 09/20/2009 ( 80 moms have responded )

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Whenever people see our daughter they're always eager to feed her something [in my opinion] inappropriate. My sister-in-law tried giving her Oreos, my cousin tried giving her guacamole, and my mom has tried giving her yogurt. This is my first child and I'm trying to raise her the healthiest way. And whenever I protest, they act like I'm being overprotective. If you have any advice on how to deal or a reason on why I should back down, I'd love to hear it.

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Marie - posted on 09/20/2009

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I want to thank all of you so much! I felt alone for a wile. Thankfully someone (or everyone) understands I didn't want her to have yogurt because I did read that they shouldn't have dairy products like that until at least 8 or 9 months. And the guacamole I figured was just not right because of all the ingredients involved. Oreos are obvious. I man they can be terrible at any age. Hahaha But thank you guys so much. Next time around, they better watch it. I hate being firm with friends & family but a mama's gotta do what a mama's gotta do. :)

Alisa - posted on 09/24/2009

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I know what you're talking about, but I've worked at a daycare for over 20 yrs. and can tell you it makes all the difference in the world. Later when they are preschoolers they won't eat breakfast unless it is sugar coated, and vegetables are disgusting to them. My sister and I both had our sons around the same time, hers was allowed to be given anything from a very early age, mine I was very strick about what was put in his mouth, and when. Yes, everyone thought I was a meanie, but I didn't care, I'd seen to many cases at daycare and knew I wanted mine to be a healthy eater, so I ignored them, and told them no. To this day my sister's son is very picky, there's only two or three veg. he likes and maybe two or three fruits, he will not eat anything with ground beef in it, and you can't even coax him into trying anything new. Mine will eat just about anything, he drinks water and likes it, I can't think of toomany things he doesn't like, and I've taught him from a very young age, that he has to try a new food at least once, then if he still doesn't want it, he don't have to eat it. Here's another secret, if they won't eat it, serve it again from time to time, my son wouldn't eat pintos or navy beans, but I kept trying every once in awhile, now he asks for them. Good luck!

Kylie - posted on 09/20/2009

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my mother in law choked both my children on biscuits and chips when they were around the same age. you'd think she would have learnt the first time around! it was terrible seeing them turn blue and not make a sound. even though you think you might sound rude, it is important to stand your ground and show who is boss. it is your child and they need to respect that. just take the food off them and say "maybe in a couple of months when his/her teeth have come through properly" or "he/she hasn't got used to chewing food and swallowing it properly so they might choke." if they still dont listen, start taking your own snacks over for them to give your baby.
things like yoghurt are a great snack. they a nutrional, easy to eat and even easier to carry around!

Stephanie - posted on 09/20/2009

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Pediatricians recommend that babies don't start dairy till a year and the reason is if they start getting it very young then they are much more likely to develop allergies to dairy and that will affect them the rest of their lives. I agree with all of the above, except the lying. Stand your ground. It isn't good for your baby to suddenly be introduced to lots of new things like guacamole which has many ingredients. If your child had a reaction to it you wouldn't even know what ingredient caused it. And oreos? Hello!!! A baby on sugar, oh yeah that's SO good for them! I would give them a piece of my mind if it were me.

Abbie - posted on 09/20/2009

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At 5 months of age you need to watch what she is being fed, as its the time where allergies can develop, also babies under a year should NOT have some things. HONEY is one. That can be deadly to a child. also nuts you need to watch. A taste of things- Yogurt won't do much harm ( in my opinion) If you don't want them to feed her things, then be the MOM and tell them NO. It doesn't matter if ou are being over protective it is your baby! @ 5 months though I pretty much only fed, formula, rice/ oatmeal cereal & fruits and veggies ( jar style) our son might get a taste of soft food, yogurt, cottage cheese, cooked veggies but nothing that took a lot to digest. That is the other thing to tell them adult foods are full flavor, where baby foods are basic and bland, but that is for a reason, babies arent ready for full flavor. If nothing else works, stand your ground and just tell them to knock that crap off!!! Its not easy but in the end you are the mom adn that is your baby. :)

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Stephanie - posted on 01/22/2013

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I admit I didn't read everything about the egg and white vs yoke. But I will tell u that the yoke has Been proven to be the most important ingreadiant in the body's ability to use the protein in the egg

Stephanie - posted on 01/22/2013

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Avocados ate AMAZINGLY GOOD FOR YOUR BABY THEY CONTAIN ESSENTIAL OMEGA 3,6,9 FATTY ACIDS HER BRAIN DESPERATLY need for development. And yogurt is great to, but Greek yogurt is best it has very high levels of protein for muscle and brain development as well as good bacteria her digestive system needs to work properly. Now the oreos....STAY FAR FAR AWAY OR YOU WILL RUIN HER TASTES BUDDS AND WILL BE HARD TO GET HER TO EAT HER VEGGIES

Hayley - posted on 12/23/2012

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I'm not a mom so I won't pretend to be, but if you find out the answer to this please let people know. I was looking for an article on how to stop loved ones from feeding you. I am 25 years old, 6 stone over weight, and my nan tries to control everything that I eat, and not in a good way. If I look in the fridge and there isnt anything there she feels sad that I'm not being fed. She likes to see me eating a bag of chocolate or crisps or things that are unhealthy and I don't want them. In fact I havent eaten either of those things in the last month or 2 but when it comes to dinner we eat copious amounts of potato. It got to the point where I always explode and start chucking food in the bin. The last time I told her I wished she hated me so she'd starve me. I also told her that if I see anymore rubbish in the shopping I will personally become bulimic and give her the food back afterwards. I shouted "I just want to see what an effin vegetable looks like" We live together, we always have.
Oh I also have gluten problems and lactose intolerance, so logically 4 weeks ago she bought us a pizza, for the 2 of us, that wouldn't even fit in the working compartment of our oven, nor the microwave. Most of our dinners are carbs. I did 2 months of exercise and couldnt shift the weight because she would stop cooking for me, and then had the cheek to say "how's your diet going" I was livid, I just had 2 months of chips and dippers and she wants to know how the diet is.

Basically what I'm saying is PROTECT YOUR CHILD WITH YOUR LIFE. Let them be healthy, feed them the necessary amounts in a loving environment where you teach them about healthy eating, teach them to cook instead of scaring them away from the kitchen so they will never be dependent on you. Do not give into the chocolate, they do not need it, and if they get fat from all the nice snacks the family buy them, one day they will turn into me, a person who gets blamed for being old enough to do my own food, but no one cares to think about the psychological issues at home, where I'm made to feel bad for wanting to be healthy, where my health issues are classed as hypochondria, where I beg and shout and swear that I don't want all the rubbish in my system but no one's bothered enough to help me, and my issues are just a nuisance that shouldn't hinder other peoples lives.

I'm not being melodramatic, and if anyone here has a similar issue (I just noticed this is from 2009) then show this post to them.) Continuing down a route of constant feeding equals an 18 year old girl that rejoiced when government in the UK were thinking about jailing people who overfed their children.

It results in someone with low self esteem who wears clothes that dont suit them because they're too scared to dress their shape properly. It results in someone who is 100% pissed off at the fact my family do not give a damn, and that when I put in the effort to excercise they will congratulate her on the effort and then take the piss by setting a dinner of 3 different types of potato, and I just don't know how to make her stop.

Do not say "move out" unless you are offering to pay, do not say "grow a back bone" until you prove how often you say no to your grandmother and she actually listens. Accept that out there are a lot of dependent individuals, just like me, who need help and are just told "you're fat because you eat too much. I only eat breakfast and dinner because I'm too scared to put anything else in my mouth.

Amanda - posted on 09/24/2009

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Tell them no. Period. And when THEY are raising your daughter, they can make decisions for her, but until then, they need to respect YOUR parenting decisions :)

Elizabeth - posted on 09/24/2009

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I was extremely strict about what my daughter ate. You just have to tell them to stop. Those things are inappropriate for a 5 month old.

Cynthia - posted on 09/24/2009

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Tell them they had their children and now you have yours and you would prefer they ask you before they give your baby anything to eat without asking you first in case they may be allergic to it or it's just not something that your doctor recommended!

Wani - posted on 09/24/2009

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Use scared tatics, or that your pediatrician advice you not to feed the baby certain kinds of food for two reasons, they could choke on it or if they have food allergy it could kill them. My daughter has a deadly allergy to peanuts, I found that out the hard way when we give her crackers that had peanuts in it. I brought out a full blown asthma attack that could have ended up badly. Now she sees the allergist and have blood work every 6 months. You really, really have to be careful what kind of process food you feed your baby, and be very firm with your family. I doubt it if they want to be responsible for something happening to you child.

Lisa - posted on 09/24/2009

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Simply tell them that they are depriving her of a healthy lifestyle and ask, in a completely dumbfounded tone, "Why would you do that?"

Elizabeth - posted on 09/23/2009

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Whenever someone tries to feed my baby inappropriate foods, I sternly say 'No, he's too young' and make sure they know I'm serious. You have to keep a watchful eye on those who are insistent and think you don't know what you are talking about.

Marie - posted on 09/23/2009

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You are definitely not being overprotective! What your child eats at a young age affects their diets forever! Too many sweets, even too many fruity baby foods, will prevent your little angel from wanting important things like veggies that don't have that sweet satisfying taste. My boy is now 16 years old and he still loves raw veggies because I didn't allow sweets for a long time. Things like oreos aren't meant for an infants digestive track. It may seem harsh but its YOUR baby. Tell your relatives you wont bring the baby around if they can't follow your rules. Non parents think they know everything but the truth is they don't have a clue... something as simple as honey could cause a major illness in a baby under a year old.

So set guidelines for your family. I don't allow my family to feed my dog so I certainly wouldn't let them give anything to the baby. You are MOM. Don't be afraid to show it:)

Meagan - posted on 09/23/2009

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This kept happening to me too. Our biggest challenge is no Dr. Pepper or Candy, even to the point where they waited until I turned my back and forcfully opened my son's mouth to rub hard candy on his gums. After that I had had enough! I told them they would not keep him again until they could recognize that I am his mother and his diet is my decision to make, not theirs. At this age, if something were fed to your child and she has an allergic reaction, would they know what to do? It becomes a safety issue at that point. But that is my opinion.

Samantha - posted on 09/23/2009

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She is your daughter and I feel that you need to stand up for what you believe is best for her. Do not let anyone walk all over you or make you feel like you are overprotective. As her mother, it's your job to protect her and do what you believe is right for her. Do not let others make stupid choices that will affect her health in a negative way. I do not allow people to smoke around my daughter and she is not allowed to have anything but her formula baby food. You have to do what is right for her!

Wendi - posted on 09/23/2009

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What about the fact that she could choke on the oreos?! Guacamole can upset her tummy. I agree with the other moms. You have to start standig up for what's best fpr her now. She can't speak for hersef, so you have to do it for her. Trust your instincts and don't be afraid to speak up.

Melissa - posted on 09/23/2009

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At 5 months their bodies cant digest those foods, not even yogurt. So i would stop going over to see them. when they get upset just say "Until you can learn to respect me and my daughter you wont be a part of her life" All there doing is harm to her, and i wouldn't allow it even if it means not seeing them anymore. One thing ive learned with being a mom is that there is nothing more important then your child.

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The Oreos I can understand (the yoghurt can actually be good for them) but if your not happy with it just let them know. If they treat you like you are being over the top just reiterate "I know you dont necessarily agree but I dont want my baby having ......., please dont give them any" I had to do the same with my in-laws over some foods - they are pretty much let-them-try-everything minded and Pop is a sweets junkie so I just told them that I didnt want her having any sweets or junk food until they are much older. They are happy to keep to healthy foods for her so its a happy medium :)

Colleen - posted on 09/23/2009

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I have this issue too with my in-laws. The worst is that my husband supports them! My MIL has given my 3 month old son a popsicle as well as a sip from an Iced Capp. I was furious!

MIssy - posted on 09/23/2009

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Grow up, and tell them how you feel. Who cares if they think you are being "overprotective" it's YOUR daughter. and you have the right to decide what kind of food she is being fed. Period! If they love you and her they will respect your decision!

Debora - posted on 09/23/2009

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TELL THEM RIGHT UP FRONT THAT IF SOMEONE FROM OUTSIDE SEES HER EATING THINGS SHE COULD CHOKE ON THEY COULD DPS THE FAMILY.SAY THE DRS OFFICE DOES NOT ALLOW NON BABY STYLE COOKIES .YOGURT DOES COME IN BABYFOOD FORM ITS BY GERBER I THINK.ITS BEEN 10 YRS SINCE I LOOKED AT IT.

Michelyn - posted on 09/23/2009

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I understand what you're going through! My family started out the same way. I basically had to explain to them, very sternly, that they are not to introduce ANY new foods to my daughter due to possible allergies. They accused me of being overprotective and I agreed with them.



I told them that I AM overprotective because I am a Child Care Provider and have seen first hand what an anaphylactic reaction looks like. I decribed to them how an infant's throat closes up in less than a minute and they can't breath. I told them the terror of watching a child dying in my arms and not being able to do anything about it while waiting for the ambulance! And that happened because food that the parent's had sent had been cross-contaminated!



Giving your child new foods is YOUR JOB ONLY unless they want the responsibility of possibly killing their niece/granddaughter. Thankfully, the baby I was referring to lived and is now 15 years old, however, that fear will NEVER leave me. I emplore you to share this story with your family. Tell them that it's more than just being healthy -- it's keeping your baby safe!

Mel - posted on 09/22/2009

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yogurt is good for the baby so dont protest against that, bu just be strong you are the mother and you decide what is good for the baby. tell them you dont want to wreck her teeth

Amber - posted on 09/22/2009

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I was just glancing over some of the other comments... while, yes, yogurt is healthy and guacamole isn't "that bad" (depends on who you're talking too) most parents don't introduce foods (i.e. rice cereal...) to their children untill about 5 months. You don't know what your child is allergic too... you have to introduce foods slowly. Yogurt is a dairy... dairy usually isn't given till about 1 year and guacamole has spices and things like tomatoes, onions... foods that the child may or may not have an allergy to... so, like I said before... if you don't want her to have it just be honest and firm... stand your ground girl!

Amber - posted on 09/22/2009

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Sometimes you just have to be the "bitch" (please excuse the expression). The only opinions that matter when it comes to your child is yours and your husbands. She is your daughter... so, you're just going to have to speak up. Ask them nicely... if that doesn't work be very honest and firm. I've also had to do the same thing with my family concerning both my son and my neice (she was in my care). My mom's husband was trying to give my 9 month old niece honey... honey!!! Babies can't have honey till after they're one due to the bacteria in the honey. Babies under one cannot digest it... so, I had to speak up because he wasn't listening. They'll get the hint. Bottom line, she's your child... not theirs. Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 09/22/2009

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Yogurt is actually good for them and their digestive track, guacamole is not to bad either (avocado has many nutrients) as long as you are not over doing it. Oreos... that is a different story. At 5 months I don't think oreo's is a good idea I was still feeding mine mushy foods still, and formula. You are not being "over protective", your being a mom. I would give the ultimatum! Either you respect my child, myself and my desicions as a mom, or you simply won't see my child. Simply put. Good luck and stay strong!

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My family used to do it with my son. I told them not to give him anything and they didnt listen so I made up reasons why he couldn't have it. For example icing has dairy. So i told them he could get really sick if he has any dairy, Sugar (rots their teeth, or soon to be teeth), Chocolate (really hard for them to digest) you can come up with them quick.

Amanda - posted on 09/22/2009

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Regardless as to what is healthy or not your baby is not ready for diff foods just yet. Easing you child into new foods once they are past7 months is very important. If your baby is given a food that she/ he may end up being allergic to cand harm or even kill your baby! So its important to just tell them that your baby is not ready for these foods yet and you are protecting her.

Tracy - posted on 09/22/2009

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ok so my opinion is if you dont like what they try to feed her stand your ground but also another way to stop it is have something in the diper bag that you do approve of that they can feed him teething cookies instead of oreos things like that that are made for baby yes kids did eat regular food way back when but not only has the food changed since then so has our ways of preparing it and also envirmental changes changing the food so yes hold your ground this isnt the old days they cant just do it them selves you are mommy and you are the boss not just to the kid but for the kid

September - posted on 09/22/2009

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Quoting Rose:

fyi, in case you were worried ;) the par of the egg that can cause allergies is the white and it's perfectly safe to feed the yolk--but you all probably think I'm wacky. That's ok :)



I don't think that you're wacky :) Our son loves egg yolk! I've been giving it to him since he was 7 months old. Now at 11 months he is eating the whole egg. He loves them scrambled :)



 

September - posted on 09/22/2009

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I would stand your ground and tell people who are feeding her things that you don't want her to have to stop! She is your child therefor you can make those choices. People should give you the respect of asking you before feeding your child anyhow.

Christy - posted on 09/22/2009

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Just tell them you're the mom and this is the way you want it. When they are the mom they can do what they want. If they think you are being overprotective tell them yes - you are protecting the way you want your child raised - nuff said!

Marcia - posted on 09/22/2009

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DON'T back down. You know how you want your child raised and the reasons for how you're doing it. Get some literature and read it to them explaining the damage they're doing, or take them along with you to your next baby weight check with the health visitor; and talk to the lady about when certain foods should be given. They're obviously not being respectful and taking your word for it or advise, or listening to your common sence, so maybe being told by a professional will knock some sence into them. That's just crazy, my son's nearly 8 months and he's only just starting having yogurt and it's only 2 tsp and only once a week. A baby's gut is only mature enough for certain foods at certain stages; how she thinks giving a baby biscuits children and adults eat is supposed to keep them healthy I don't know. And yogurt will just give your baby the runs being that young as 6-7 months is the right age for some of the types, it'll really cramp your baby's tummy.



You stand your ground hun, your the mother not them, if they still won't listen, say it's either your way, or they don't see the baby their choice. Good luck with it all :-)

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Quoting Rose:

fyi, in case you were worried ;) the par of the egg that can cause allergies is the white and it's perfectly safe to feed the yolk--but you all probably think I'm wacky. That's ok :)



I actually had a friend of mine have a COW when my son was about 8 months old.  I was feeding him a scrambled egg yolk (because I had done my research, as well as spoken with the nutritionist at the ped office).  OMG you would have thought I was pouring poison down his throat the way my friend literally over reacted!  She thought just because I was a new, first time mom, that apparently my brain fell out of me when my son popped out of me lol!  It is the white, not the yolk, that most people (not just babies) are allergic to.  Another common misconception about eggs is that you can get salmonella from eating raw eggs (like in cookie dough).  Not true.  The salmonella comes from the egg shell (the outside part of the shell).  Eggs we buy in the store have been washed and sanitized before packaging.  So unless you're eating a raw egg straight from a chicken's butt, no worries of salmonella.



And to the OP, it's your baby, your rules.  Simple as that.  You say no, then no it is.  I don't understand why people, especially our families, sometimes disregard our wishes when it comes to our babies.  It's like they have forgotten what it was like to be a mom and to need to learn to do things in your own style.  I had an uncle jump down my throat once when my son was around 5 months old.  My uncle was drinking a glass of scotch on the rocks (on ice) and he took a chunk of the ice (about a penny sized piece) out of his SCOTCH and put it in my son's mouth.  My first reaction was "NOOO!" as I scooped the ice from his mouth.  My uncle was insulted!  I couldn't believe he didn't see that giving a baby who has no teeth and can hardly keep infant cereal in his mouth is a bad idea, not to mention that it came from a glass of friggin SCOTCH!  Ugh.....

Rebeccah - posted on 09/22/2009

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Tell them to back off and respect your parenting. You are the mother and you make the decisions! Although, yogurt should not be a problem, many other foods are. You need to introduce new food to the baby and let them try it for a few days to see if see has a reaction. Tell them that.

Becky - posted on 09/22/2009

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Ask them to stop and if they do not, stop letting them see her until they understand the reason why. At 5 months old it is hard to digest sweet and sugary things like that. It is totally unhealthy. They should pay the doctor bills when she starts having digestive problems.

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Quoting Jodee:

Ok so people don't agree on what is best for children to eat. Let me tell you a story about my four children. My oldest ate ice cream and mashed potatoes when he was one day old and has been eating ever since. My children never ate baby food (have you seen what is in it?) My thought was and still is in the old days they didn't have baby food every baby ate what every one else is eating. If you are eating healthy then you can feed your baby healthy just smash up what you are eating to a point I never fed my kids spicy foods until they were two. I know that Oreo's are not necessarly good for you and I don't like them but they are great for cutting teeth you just have to watch them. Things like pudding and strawberry pie is somewhat good for them the pudding is made with milk and the strawberry's are healthy. Just make sure that you only give them small amounts to start to make sure they are not allergic. I would all of you to know that all four of my children are skinny and healthy as can be. Also none of my children could drink formula. Two are lactose intallerent and cant have milk and my oldest drank goat milk for 6 months and my youngest drank 2% milk. None of them could hold the formula down because of the ingredients they put in them. I' m not saying this is the right way to feed your child but mine never cried because they were hungry and I found that they slept all night from day one and have never had any health problems except for the minor cold and cough.



im sorry but i had to comment to you. the drs. no best for babies thats why you are not suppose to give babies certain foods like milk before they are one. they can grow up and become allergic to it because they were giving it so early. chocolate is bad for a child before the age of 2 atleast. strawberry pie is not ok for a babies under the age of 1 because it has sugar in it. babies can only eat certain foods because of there digestive systems cant digest like ours. you should never give a child ice ream or anything else that has lots os sugar in it before the age of 1 atleast. you are lucky that your kids do not have a obesity problem. oh and by the way my daughter eats formula and babyfood she is 7 mths old and she has always slept through the night since the day she was born too so the whole food situation doesnt have anything to do with that.

Hope - posted on 09/21/2009

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i totally agree with you. my family is the same way my daughter is 7 mths my dad tries giving her soda and other people give her icecream i tell them not to. you have to stand your ground it is your child and you need to set the rules on how she is going to be raised your family is just going to have to accept it or not be around her. i told all of my family this even my in-laws and i dont have problems anymore and when they say something like oh it wont hurt her i say well she is my child not yours so let me decide on what she will eat or do not you.. im very opinionated. remeber you are the mom and you set the rules no matter what...

Adella - posted on 09/21/2009

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You are the mom. You set the rules. Even w/family. You can explain to them why you want your baby to have or not have certain foods, or you can just stand your ground and say: "This is my child, & I will do it my way".

Cleona - posted on 09/21/2009

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first of all ladies...babies shouldn't have chocolate ....period....and yes you should get REALLY bitchy with your family.....and who cares what they think....it's obvious they don't care about you or they wouldn't be so irresponsible shame on them....

Cleona - posted on 09/21/2009

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It's pureed avacados with a little chili powder and cumin in it....it's really yummy but not for babies.....

Jodee - posted on 09/21/2009

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Ok so people don't agree on what is best for children to eat. Let me tell you a story about my four children. My oldest ate ice cream and mashed potatoes when he was one day old and has been eating ever since. My children never ate baby food (have you seen what is in it?) My thought was and still is in the old days they didn't have baby food every baby ate what every one else is eating. If you are eating healthy then you can feed your baby healthy just smash up what you are eating to a point I never fed my kids spicy foods until they were two. I know that Oreo's are not necessarly good for you and I don't like them but they are great for cutting teeth you just have to watch them. Things like pudding and strawberry pie is somewhat good for them the pudding is made with milk and the strawberry's are healthy. Just make sure that you only give them small amounts to start to make sure they are not allergic. I would all of you to know that all four of my children are skinny and healthy as can be. Also none of my children could drink formula. Two are lactose intallerent and cant have milk and my oldest drank goat milk for 6 months and my youngest drank 2% milk. None of them could hold the formula down because of the ingredients they put in them. I' m not saying this is the right way to feed your child but mine never cried because they were hungry and I found that they slept all night from day one and have never had any health problems except for the minor cold and cough.

Britney - posted on 09/21/2009

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I have the same problem. my son is 6mo. and I have caught my husbands family giving him chocolate pudding and strawberry pie. So I thank you for posting the question cause I had no idea how to handle it either.

Firebird - posted on 09/21/2009

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Even at 5 months old yogurt and tastes of guacamole aren't too bad, they are healthy foods. But as for junk like oreos, you've got to make it clear that it will not be tolerated. When my daughter was 7 months old her dad's mom tried giving her a cake thingy (I don't remember what it was) smothered with honey. I told her nope, not happening because I'm the mum and I said so. A month later her dad's cousin tried giving her a sucker and after we said no several times the cousin put it almost in my kid's mouth so I yelled at her and she never tried putting food near my kid again. For th record this cousin is my age... I didn't just yell at some little kid who didn't know any better! lol You've got to stand your ground on this, but I personally would let something healthy like yogurt slide in very small amounts..

Mandi - posted on 09/21/2009

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Most people will take you asking them not to feed your child certain foods very well, but in my opinion, the only ones that will take offense to it are the Grandparents. I am a Grandma myself and after having 3 of my own I know what I can and cant feed him. Oreo's are definately not good until they can learn to feed themselves. But yogurt is really good for them. I had to feed my daughter yogurt when she was about 2 months old, per doc orders, so it can't be all that bad. if I ever tried to tell my mother what she could or couldn't give my child, all i would hear is "I fed it to you and you turned out fine.' so i have learned you can't argue with grandparents, but everyone else should be OK with you asking them not to.

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Oh no Marie, don't back down. It is your child so what you say goes.. And no way should she be eating any of that stuff at 5 months. You should be over protective because your baby can't speak up. The way you should deal is let them know do not give her that type of stuff to her. You are the mom. If they get upset, so be it. You are protecting your child. And I'm sure any doctor will tell you the same. Good luck.. Sometimes you may have to let folks go if they can't follow your wishes when it comes to your child/children...No matter who they are, Cause they need to respect what you want for your child...

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Yeah, I think guacamole and yogurt are actually pretty good - healthy and soft. But otherwise, for the other really unhealthy foods - it's really a matter of letting people that YOU are the mother and YOU decide what's best. I think it has a lot to do with your own personality, if people don't take you seriously, they aren't going to listen.

I had a problem with my mother badmouthing me to my daughter, cutting her hair without my approval or taking her places without my consent.. and when I confronted her on it, she also thought I was being overprotective - but I didn't believe that was the case. It wasn't until I just couldn't take it anymore and really let my mother have it - I didn't just yell and scream, I made sure I had valid points - that she finally listened to me.

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fyi, in case you were worried ;) the par of the egg that can cause allergies is the white and it's perfectly safe to feed the yolk--but you all probably think I'm wacky. That's ok :)

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Yogurt is probably a great thing to be feeding your 5 mo old! the probiotics are as good for he as they are for you. Probably a teaspoon a day is enough and plain as opposed to flavored. My kids never knew the difference they loved it. Also, probably young for guacamole but plain mashed avocado is one of the best foods you can feed her right no. Be aware that your own homemade baby food is far healthier than what you can buy in jars! side note along with avocado, mashed (hard boiled) egg yolk mixed with pure organic butter and just a pinch of sea salt is GREAT for optimum brain development. Their brains are made up mostly of saturated fat--give them lots :)

as for dealing with family feeding her oreos? just put your foot down. if they know it means that much to you I would think they would respect your feelings...

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Tell them to ask you first, an uncle was about to make my daughter eat peanut butter at 4 months old, and I informed him that research shows that babies given peanut butter under 2 years old are more prone to getting a nut allergy. He never did that again, and always asked there after.

Laura - posted on 09/20/2009

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It doesn't matter if it's healthy food or not. She is your child and if they are giving her things even after you have asked them nicely not to, you're probably gonna have to be firmer about it. I had to get a bit witchy with my inlaws because they believed my autistic son should eat pudding cups every day, even though I said no. After me having to raise my voice and them not seeing our son for a few weeks, they got the idea.

Pippa - posted on 09/20/2009

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look any mother will tell you that if you dont stand your ground they'll walk all over you she's your daughter MAKE them know that

Jodi - posted on 09/20/2009

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I have the exact same problem with family and (excuse my language) I've had to be the b**ch! I got the whole schpeel about being over protective and lightening up and what not. But it all comes down to one thing, what are YOU comfortable, YOU know what's best for your child and what she can handle. Just because they're family doesn't mean you can't get mad and what not, in fact, because they're family, they almost HAVE to let it go! What worked really well for me (since we have a big family dinner every week) was to bring over whatever new food she might be trying for the first time, it let my family in on giving her something new to eat, while I got to control what went in her tummy. Seriously though, put your foot down now so they know that you are mom and you mean business and you will not be cowed over. Good luck!!!

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