How do I get help for my 18-year old son who is depressed and anxious and refuses to get help and avoids school?

Val - posted on 12/08/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 18 year old son who is suffering from depression and anxiety as well as being medicated for ADD. He has also expressed his thoughts of suicide as well. He basically does nothing (except sometimes go out with the few friends he still has) and doesn't go to school. We think he doesn't go because of his anxiety. The school is working to try to be sure he graduates this June and he was just put on an anti-depressant that he doesn't want to take. He refuses to go to see his psychologist and was dropped from his caseload. We are literally at the end of our rope. We don't know what more to do. We just informed him that he will need to start going back to school and therapy or go to intensive in or outpatient therapy or we will start diminishing our financial support, and he apparently doesn't believe that we will, because he says he's not going to meet with us and his psychiatrist to develop a plan. Does anyone have experience with a situation like this? Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get him help? He is 18 and therefore considered an adult so our hands are tied.

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Dove - posted on 12/08/2014

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If you don't want to go that route... what financial support are you giving him? If it's more than a roof over his head and food in his belly... stop doing it.. now. If he's not leaving the house he doesn't need anything else anyway. You could also serve him w/ an eviction notice. I believe the police would remove him from the house... but I think there is an amount of time a 'tenant' has to be given notice of eviction before the police would get involved.

Now... I absolutely would NOT want to throw him out... or even be planning to at this point, but it might be the wake up call he needs to realize you are serious about him getting help. You don't want a depressed 40 year old bumming on your couch....

Dove - posted on 12/08/2014

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If he is expressing thoughts of suicide you can call 911 and they can admit him for a watch (I believe it is only 24 hours... might be 48). Then you can get his psychiatrist to see him while he is under watch to assess if he needs to be committed.

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