how do i get my 2 in a half yr old to sleep in his own bed

De'Anna - posted on 06/02/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 2 in a half and he still sleeps with me.
Lately I've been trying to have him sleep in his own room, in his own bed but after an hr he wakes up frantic and crying and comes into our room and crawls right into bed with my husband and I.
When I try to put him back he screams bloody murder now I also have a 3month old who for now shares a room with him and I don't want him to wake her so I give in.
I know I know I shouldn't!
Any advise??

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Deepti - posted on 06/03/2011

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let your boy son sllep with u and then shift him to other room.. also introduce a teddy to him meanwhile and ask your son to treat him as a younger brother and take care of him.. it is better to go slow and calmly.
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De'Anna - posted on 06/02/2011

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That's actually very understandable and helpful. No offense to the other posts but I don't like m the idea of having my son cry himself to sleep. I shall give your suggestion a go maan, and thanks for ALL the posts!

Belinda - posted on 06/02/2011

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I wonder if he had something to cuddle with when he wakes up if that would help to prevent him waking up so upset. I would do a couple of things :

1) If he isn't used to spending any time in his room, play with him and spend time with him in the room, progress to getting him to sleep by himself in his room during naps. Once this has become routine start him sleeping there at night.



2) It sounds as if he is missing you at night and is waking u scared because for the first 2 years of his life you were always there. I would consider getting a blanket, use one of his old receiving blankets if you want, or a snuggly toy/bear. Sleep with it for 3-4 days -this is supposed to imprint your scent and your son's scent on whatever you choose. This is recommended for younger children I don't know if it will work for older children, but give it a go.after your scent has been imprinted let him sleep with it during the naps in his own bed as well as while he is still sleeping with you. At night, when he wants to snuggle with you, gently encourage him to snuggle with the blanket/teddy bear. this will take time, but hopefully will help him to transition easily to sleeping in his own bed.



The other alternative is for you to sleep on the floor in his room, but with a 3 month old I doubt you will be able to do this. I also recommend that you look up someone called Kim West AKA the Sleep Lady. She has lots of recommendations on her web site/blog and also has a book that I found very helpful for my daughter.



I hope this helps you, I am sorry that it is not an immediate solution. But good Luck and I hope you all get some good sleep.



Edited to add: some children do not do well if you just let them cry, your son has spent his whole life sleeping with you, to suddenly expect him to get used to sleeping without you and not be scared is not reasonable. It will take a while but he will get used to sleeping by himself.

Belinda - posted on 06/02/2011

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Does he have a snuggle, special blanket or something similar that he could soothe himself with ?

Amy - posted on 06/02/2011

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it's easier to transfer the 3 month old after the crying. if you have a pack and play or bassinet - anything baby can sleep in until the screaming stops. Just have to be very calm yet very firm. [no giving in!!].

Speak very plainly so he won't be confused. "You are going to start sleeping ONLY in your bed and not in mommy's anymore. If you get out and come into our room, we will bring you back here anyway."

He knows what's coming. now just stick to it and he'll just be like, gee, my crying and whining isn't getting me squat. may as well stay in my bed because i'm tired. We had to keep putting our daughter back in bed, but she just got out to get out. There was about a week of wondering if we could stay calm and keep putting her in, but we stuck to it and there she still sleeps. Only time she comes into our room is sunday morning when the whole family snuggles before we greet the day. Good luck. stick to your guns.

Tiffany - posted on 06/02/2011

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i had this problem with my daughter when my son was born i jus put my daughter to bed first and let her cry herself to sleep cause it wont hurt them to cry and then after she finally falls asleep i would then put my son to bed. I use to give in to her too but then i buckled down on her and stopped giving in to her. Now we moved and they have their own rooms but she did end up sleeping in her bed!!!

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