How do I get my 2 year old off rthe binkie!?
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Jillian - posted on 01/24/2010
My daughter was attached to the binky and wouldnt go to sleep without it. When we would go for walks she had a habbit of throwing it out of the stroller and sometimes I wouldnt notice so I was always buying new ones.. Finally one day I just said shag it, I wasnt going to buy another one. The first night and the next day was rough but she got over it.. So just chuck it..
Suzanne - posted on 01/24/2010
well, I started out first by telling my daughter that she was getting to be a "big girl" now and she could have her binkie while in her bed or in the car or strollar for a while. (she would go and stand by her bed and hold onto the headboard and suck the binkie for a few moments and then go back and play..LOL ..at first)....then slowly wean her off to just when you need to calm her in the car or sleeping but then one day I sort of talked her out of it by letting her think SHE thought of it herself...we drove down a street and threw it out the window and I let HER toss it out the window! So that was the end of that b/c she had to be ready....otherwise its not good..(we drove just down our little street and my hubby went by soon after and got the binkie and threw it away LOL)
Susan - posted on 01/24/2010
My daughter was 2 1/2 when we decided the binky had to go. We decided to have binky day. We set a day on the calendar. We talked to her about it and told her that was the day that she would become a big girl. We crossed each day out on the calendar. When binky day came, she through binky in the trash. We make a big deal about what a big girl she was and took her to the toy store. We bought her a new toy to celebrate. It was no problem.
Melissa - posted on 03/26/2011
I was wondering if this worked for you. My daughter also turned 2 in December and this fall will be starting 'Transitional Pre-school'. I NEED to get rid of the binkie as soon as possible. At Christmas time we said we had to leave them out for Santa to leave presents, but after an hour of screaming that night, she got it back. (Yes, I am the horrible parent that gave into her cries). Now I am back where I started, if not in a worse position. She takes this thing everywhere... I'm thinking that cold turkey is going to be the best thing for us to do, but I agree with the other posts that it's going to be much harder on me than her. Were you able to work something out? I'm very interested since our children are the same age!
Denise - posted on 02/20/2010
I started to get my kids used to being off the bottle and binkie before the age of 1. I got my kids the sippie cups with the soft nipples so they really didn't know the difference. I also stopped giving them the binkie until it was nap time or time for bed. After they fell asleep, I hid it. Out of sight... Out of mind. As long as there weren't any problems with them falling asleep I never gave it back to them. Some parents have problems with hearing their kids cry during the day so they give in. Crying doesn't bother me, I never had that problem. Its when they are too quiet when you need to worry. Start doing this during the day for nap time. Its better for your child to cry herself to sleep during the day, so she can be prepared for it at night too.
Ashley - posted on 02/20/2010
my son was attached to his binky, he always had in his mouth, when i thought he was getting a little to old for it, i started to ween him off like at first he only got it for naps and bed time, then after a few days it was for only bed time then after about week i just threw them all away. the first couple days were a little rough, but he quickly got over it. and he has been binky free for almost a yr. now. Luckily my daughter never took it, not even at the hospital! so i dont have to go through that with her, but she is attached to the bottle and i have a feeling this one is going to be tougher!! any tips on how to get her off that would be helpful, she is one and always needs her bottle, i guess you could say its her binky, she dont care if its empty as long as she has it!
Brenda - posted on 01/24/2010
This is how I always take something away...bottle, pacifier, etc.
"Never Offer, Never Refuse"
For my son, I just started picking up all his pacifiers and putting them away. If he wanted one, he had to get his own. After a few weeks, it wasn't an issue.
Same with my daughter's bottle. I stopped offering it, but if she cried for it, she got it. It didn't take long before she forgot about it, and I tossed all the bottles so we couldn't go backwards. Occasionally after they were gone, she would ask for one, and I would say that she's a big girl and drinks her mild from a glass now.
Never Offer, Never Refuse has been so easy for this soft hearted Mom. And it reminds me WHY my kids have some of the habits they do ;)
Heidi - posted on 01/24/2010
Hi I'm not sure what the binkie is, I am asuming a comforter like a blanket, bottle or pacifier. My son had 3 dummies and a bottle at 2yrs he kept chewing each dummy till it no longer worked with each we anounced it was broken and he should throw it in the bin - he agreed and did, when he did ask one night we just said it was broken remember you threw it in the bin, he accepted and has maybe only asked once or twice more with the same answer and acceptance, at nearly 3 we have just done the same with the bottle and once again it has been accepted... we'll see how these theory's work with my next child if he attaches to anything as each child is different... I found I worried about it more than he did especially around the time my next son was born I was worried about reverting so much I had a secret dummy stached in case all hell broke loose but it did not and I worried for nothing! :-) Good luck
Joy - posted on 01/24/2010
Ok, here are some ideas..binkie fairies are good ideas....you can either buy a small gift for underneath the pillow but if she likes fairies then buy a small costume for the fairy to leave behind. Another idea is that as its nearly easter do it then, the easter bunny will take it in trade of some goodies. Cutting then end of or going cold turkey is fine aswell but i think the other 2 are a little more fun. Hope you manage ok, let us all know how it goes.
Tami - posted on 01/24/2010
My pediatrian said " I won't let her graduate high school with a pacifier." It is true. I did not make a big deal about it and both of my girls gave it up and then were rewarded for doing so. No crying, no nothing. I do think it is harder for moms than the kids. Don't sweat the small stuff. She will give it up. I just only let mine have at naps and bedtime and then they just stop asking for it. I did the gradual thing and it worked for us. Just do what feels right to you. Good luck!
Shoneen - posted on 01/24/2010
Take it away. My son was introduced to the binkie when he was in the hospital to help with his suck reflux. He was 5 weeks early and hadn't deveopled the suck reflex, so he had to be feed via a tube the binkie aided in developing it.
Lori - posted on 01/24/2010
I cut the nipple off the binkie and when she sfound it she said Mama binkies broke! And so I said well we better throw it in the garbage.And she said binkies all gone and that was the end of it!!!!! It was WAY more stressful for me than it was for her! I was freakin out thinking OMG! How am I gonna get her to take a nap?!!! What about bed time? But kids are smart and she found other way to calm herself like snugglin up with an animal, her blanket, whatever she needed to do to relax herself into sweet dreams! Like I said I was more freaked out about it than she was so..... GOOD LUCK!!!! Lori
Brandy - posted on 01/24/2010
I agree with Mrs. Cave. My daughters were so close in age, they both had a pacifier at the same time. My oldest was 2 and needed to give it up so I took it away from both of them. For four long - and they seem LONG- nights they cried. After that, they were fine. They haven't needed one since. The key is to be firm. Don't give in for a second, and definitely don't let them see them again. Out of sight, out of mind!
Michele - posted on 01/24/2010
the doc told me when my daughter was 1 to just take it away from her...that she would cry but they have such short term memory at that age that in a few days she would forget all about it. It worked, it was tough but its did work. Good luck
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