How do I get my 3 month old to sleep through the night?
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Brittney - posted on 11/23/2009
My son is almost 3 months old and maybe three times since he was born he has slept for 4 or more hours during the night and wee hours of the morning. For the most part my son still sleeps most during the day. We have tried keeping him awake during the day and one night it worked, then we did it again the next day and it didn't. Most nights when he falls asleep, it's for no more than an hour or two if I'm lucky. Last night, for example, starting at 9:00 he fell asleep. He slept for about 45 minutes to an hour, and then was awake for 2-3 hours. This goes on until 6:45 this morning when he finally fell asleep and stayed asleep until 12:45. 6 full hours. How do I get him to do that at night instead of first thing in the morning? Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.
Daysi - posted on 11/23/2009
i had the same problem with my son he is 4 month already he was wakin up during the night every 2 hours an then sleepin trough the whole day an i realise he fell sleep on his back during the night he wakes up but if i put him on his belly he would sleep the whole night the first week i watched him an woke up every 2 hours to check on him an by the next week i was able to have a good sleep cos he was comfortable sleepin on his belly than on his back an knowing what he prefers help a lot. i know doctors say you shouldnt but when they ask me how he sleeps i told them an they say to me if that helps the good for u! so its worth giving it a go sometimes babies feel comfortable on the belly becos they feel they are lyin on top of u its more like comfort for them! hope it helps!
Stacey - posted on 11/23/2009
Get a sleep book, I tried 'Save our Sleep' by Tizzie Hall cos I got so desperate when my first was about 10 months and still waking constantly through the night. Within a week I had him settling himself to sleep and sleeping 12hrs through the night, in his own room, he was also having 2 naps during the day, about an hour or two each. I was so determined to do the same with my second as early as possible because now that I was used to a good nights sleep again I was not going to condemn myself to months of sleep deprivation again, I ended up having her putting herself to sleep and sleeping 12hrs through the night in her room, and 2 naps by around 3 months old. It is not only the single best thing you can do for yourself, but also for your baby, they benefit so much from getting a good night sleep and having a good routine, and they are so much happier. The book I used had suggested routines including meal times, nap times, bedtime and suggested routines leading up to bed, eg. bath, milk feed, reading, bed. and it tells you what times your baby should be having naps because this changes as they get older, it may seem off putting to have to try to follow a routine (I was put off at first) but it actually made life so much easier for me, It took the guess work out and the routines do actually assist in helping them sleep well. Feel free to send me a message if you have any questions or want advice.
Minnie - posted on 11/23/2009
I think the sooner we all have realistic expectations conerning infant and toddler sleep habits the better.
While SOME babies DO sleep through without needing mom during the night, it is not the norm at three months, and for a particular child may not be the norm at three years.
Beverley - posted on 11/23/2009
well always feed him something before going to bed try and get a routine if you can certan time you put him to bed , anyway this is normal at this age they dont start reallysleeping thru the night until they are maybe 6 to 9 months have tiy checked his gums for teeth he may be teething my daughter did not sleep thru the night until she was 15months old , everychild is different but good luck
Michelle - posted on 11/23/2009
Does the child have its own room? Don't think it'll work unless they do. From the beginning I would give a last feed at around 11pm, change and put my children to bed for the night - they both slept until at least 7am often later. Bath time was after their tea time feed as I found that this was not an aid to sleep!! Keep night tme feeding time as quiet and calm as possible and then change and bed as soon as possible. When they were 3/4 months old bedtime had been gradually brought forward to 7.30-8pm. Also, don't know how you feel about those little night lights (plug into socket) - my son slept with one as didnt seem to like the room too dark !!
Peggy - posted on 11/23/2009
the most easy way of getting your child to sleep is after last feed put him to bed stay with him dont make a fuss wrap him up dont talk to him either hold his hand or stroke his head and wait with him for a wile till hes asleep then walk away my son is now 5 mths and hes been sleeping all night since he was 2 mths dont worrie about night feeds if he wont go back to sleep then give him a feed the put him back to bed dont runn to every nosie he make thats giving him attention it will be hard for a wile but it will work
Kelly - posted on 11/23/2009
GIVE THEM A BATH AROUND SEVEN THIRTY AFTER ABOUT A COUPLE HOURS OF BEING AWAKE THEN FED HIM A NICE 4-5 OUNCE BOTTLE W ONE OUNCE OF RICE CEREAL MY BABY GIRL LOVES TI SHE DOSENT FALL RIGHT TO SLEEP BUT WHEN YOU ARE DONE PUT HIM/HER DOWN AND CRIB OR BASSIE AND LET THE CRY THEM SELVES TO SLEEP FOR TEN MINUTES IF THAT DONT WORK CHECK IN ON THEM IN FIVE MORE MINUTES IF THAT DONT WORK THEY MAY HAVE ITCHY TAG, HUNGRY, TUMMY ACHE ECT....
Beck - posted on 11/23/2009
My bubba was doing the same still at 6mths, ended up in our bed feeding 4+ times a night and waking every 45mins - 1hr. We brought the book 'Dream Baby Guide by Shayne Rowley' and it saved our life. So much good information. We 'fixed' him in a night! Cant speak highly enough of it! Good luck.
Debbie - posted on 11/23/2009
When my daughters were babies, I would give them a little thinned down cereal in a bottle before bedtime. I also used a special bottle for the cereal that had a special nipple attached. They felt full longer and would sleep through the night.
Hayley - posted on 11/23/2009
My son is 17 months old and still doesnt sleep through the night! He never has. Ive tried everything. He is even in his own bed but will wake up at least once during the night. Unfortunately some children dont need as much sleep as others. But at 3 months it sounds more like he hasnt quite got used to day and night yet. I hope u manage to find a solution and dont end up like me : ( .Good luck x (Sorry this wasnt much help in finding a solution).
Bridget - posted on 11/23/2009
It can depend on whether your bub is on breast or bottle. Many moms do not have a lot of milk in the evenings so therefore bub isn't getting enough before their big sleep. If this is the case topping bub up with expressed breast milk can help them fill up in the evening (or starting solids as others have suggested as long as your bub is ready). If your bub is on formula then he isn't drinking enough during the day - if bubs drink enough throughout the day then they should be able to go through the night without a feed. Unfortunately some bubs however just aren't ready to sleep through the night until they are a little older - but trust me it will happen!! Another book is 'The Sleepeasy solution' however this does involve a little crying.
Sheryn - posted on 11/23/2009
It sounds like his body clock is all mixed up.I started putting my son in a routine a few mths bck and it took about a week of being a tough mummy to get him to it.Hes now taken it upon himself to sleep through the night.Shaun has his tea and bath starting around 5/5:30pm,bottle offered 6:30pm bed at 7pm.Normally sleeps through til 7/8am.Brecky then his nap about 10/11am Lunch then nap 2:30/3pm.Before I cracked down Shaun was up all hours of the night.Still awake til 3 am some nights.Its exhausting.I found each night moving his bed time bck a hour(Monday 10pm,Tues 9pm etc etc) worked for me.There will be a lil crying but just reassure him but dont give in.Good luck and hope this helps:)
Jessica - posted on 11/23/2009
It sounds like he has his nights and days mixed up.
What you will need to do is during the day when he sleeps put him down to sleep in the light, so right by a window or something, make sure there is noise around like the tv on or something.
for night time i would be starting a solid bedtime routine so say at about 6pm nice deep warm bath, massage with some lotion that has lavender in it and get him in his sleeping clothes then bottle and bed by 7pm. If he is not waking through the night for a bottle he should eventually sleep from 7pm to 7am.
During the day he needs about 4 hours and 45 minutes of sleep broken up into two 2 hour sleeps and a 45 minute nap. The reason you find him waking in 45 minutes is becasue babies sleep in sleep cycles of 40 minutes and 80 minutes. the key to them sleeping longer than these cycles is them being able to put them selves back to sleep. When he wakes after 1 cycle he will stir and cry but the thing is we think they are awake and go in and pick them up when really they are just trying to go into the next cycle, try not to go in his room straight away let him whinge for a few minutes and see if he falls back to sleep. If he is constantly crying with no pause after like 5 minutes then i would go get him, but if there a small pauses between his whinges then he is fine and will eventually fall back to sleep. the pauses you hear is him falling back to sleep but then they startle and wake them selves up and cry again.
The reason i know this is because i was where you were when my son was 1 month old he had his days and nights mixed up, if i let him he would sleep 6 hours in the day but i would always wake him after 3 hours, which helped!!
And up until 2 months ago i was having to rock my son to sleep every night and during the day i was running in at every cry and during the night he would cry and stir a little and i would pick him up straight away. First i just pat his bum or back while he was still in bed instead of picking him up and he would go back to sleep.
Now that he is a bit older (4months) he will slip inbetween his sleep cycles with a little fuss and thats it.
Once he has his nights and days sorted he still might wake once for a bottle at night, my son only in the last week dropped that last bottle cos ive started him on baby rice cereal.
Good luck hun, its a bugger when they are confused but you will get there if you have any questions let me know, i can give you the routine i have my son on if you like, just private message me. =)
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