how do i get my 3 year old to start going to bed with out me staying in the room with him? I NEED HELP!!!

Kaity - posted on 09/01/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




im having trouble putting my son to sleep in his room with out him coming out and asking for me to stay with him. he wants me there until he falls asleep. he also wakes up aleast 2 times a night to use the bathroom and will wake me up to put him back to bed. I have a 3month old that wakes up every 4hours, which means no sleep for me AT ALL. i am married but my husband works almost 24hour shifts. when he does try and put my son to sleep, my son crys and fights until i give in and just put him to sleep. I am starting work next week and i honestly feel like i wont be able to funcation correctly with such little sleep. Please, if any one can help me let me know!!!


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Kaity - posted on 09/02/2011




thank you everyone for your help. i dont think i will lock my son in ( i'd rather stay away from scaring him for life) but i will take up everyone elses advice. thank you so much

Sam - posted on 09/02/2011




You don't have to lock his door just put him to bed explain that he has to stay in his bed and go to sleep give him his hugs and kisses and walk out let him cry if he gets up take him back to his room tell him good night and walk out. It will take some time and it might be hard but just let him cry and keep taking him back in. It won't be long and he will get the hang of it!

Maggie - posted on 09/01/2011




i would spend that time with him at bedtime, he obviously needs some mommy time. let him know that this is his mommy time and when he wakes up to use the washroom in the night he needs to go straight back to bed on his own.
please do not lock his door :( just the thought of that breaks my heart.

Cindy - posted on 09/01/2011




I agree, frankly just walk out. He wont cry himself to death, when you train a child a certain way (such as falling asleep on you instead of alone) then you're bound to face challenges, just tell him it's bedtime and you'll see him in the morning. Now establish a bedtime routine, bath, story, hugs and kisses and bed, and stick to it

Katherine - posted on 09/01/2011




I would just stay with him until he falls asleep. Keep moving closer to the door every other day.Stay 10 min then 5 min then 2 min. Or whatever. Don't lock him in his room, that is just cruel.

Ashley - posted on 09/01/2011




You probably wont like this but lock his door it will only take a few nights im not sure about the bathroom thing my son is in pull ups at night but u could cut back the liquid at 7 or something. I used to give my son two chances then would lock his door till i went to bed he cryed for a few min but would go to sleep. good luck i realy dont no a better solution

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