How do I get my 3 yearold son to stop wetting his self during the day!

Allie - posted on 03/24/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My son was getting real good at potty training. Then all of a sudden he just stoped. He started wetting him self like a couple of times a day!.. but he only wets at home, if we are at a store or party he will let us know he has to go! I really need help with this.

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Jennifer - posted on 03/25/2011

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Some kids do that, because they get too distracted with play, that they forget to go to the potty til it's too late. So, just reminding them every so often, helps. My 3 year old, just seamed to not care at times, so I made it so he would care. I always gave him one piece of fruit snack (his favorite candy)for using the potty, but if he had an accident, and I had to clean the floor, I got to eat a fruit snack. He definately didn't want me eating any of his fruit snacks, so he started caring again, and has only had one accident since. That was about 4 months ago!

Emily - posted on 03/29/2011

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@Jennifer I LOVE that idea, I think I'm going to steal it! ;) Allie our three year old just went through a regression too. She is comming out of it THANKGOODNESS. We started to reward her again for using the big girl potty but only if she did by herself. We also got some plain white panites and told her that they were time out panites, if she went potty in her big girl panties she had to wear the white ones. We didn't get mad or yell just told her, "you went potty in your big girl panites looks like you gonna have to wear your time out ones" but then if she made the next time to the potty she got to pick out anther pair of her big girl panties, So are it has worked pretty well.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/29/2011

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I don't believe he thinks it is okay because you don't get mad at him..I think he has regressed and it is normal. Put him back in a diaper if he is wetting that often ...I hate pullups so I never recommend them..they are expensive and they lengthen the potty training process because the child doesnt feel uncomfortable when wet. My opinion anyway.

I would stop pushing the potty training..the first thing you need to know about potty training is it isn't up to YOU when your child is trained...it's when HE decides he will comply with this new rule. The more you push ..the more the child resists.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/31/2011

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Hey Jennifer,
Bedwetting is a whole different animal. I see your son is staying dry 50% of the time. At almost 4 years of age that is fantastic. Some children don't have the bladder control, bladder maturity and some are very deep sleepers. These are things that may hinder night time training. Also, bed wetting can be hereditary.

That said, there are a couple of things you could do to encourage him. Let him know that accidents happen and do not get mad. It can be humiliating for bed wetters already without any added embarassment of punishment.
You can also get him up halfway through the night and bring him to the toilet...also limit liquids after 6pm or stop them altogether after 6pm.

I come from a long line of bed wetters...my parents were 12 and 14 when they stopped bed wetting. I was 12. Of the 4 of us, my 1 sister and 1 brother never wet the bed..but my other sister and I did right until 12 yrs.

Continue with the diapers or pull ups at night to save yourself from washing sheets. Invest in a mattress protector..they sell plastic or vinyl ones which cover the entire mattress.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/31/2011

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Again, I say, get rid of the pull ups. They send a confusing message to the child. You hit the nail on the head Jennifer when you said he stays dry when he is bottomless..get underwear for him and stop with the pull up aka diaper.



He needs to feel the discomfort of wetting himself or pooping in his undies...when it happens let him see you dumping the poop in the toilet and ask where does poop go....when we need to poop where do we do it...what do we say ..yada yada you get the picture.



It needs to be a physical and mental lesson. Just the physical change without the mental stimulation and questioning doesn't get it done.

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Marla - posted on 03/31/2011

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It was my experience with my two girls that they can be encouraged, but not forced, we used books and treats to tempt and coax them to relax and enjoy the potty. Pullups did prolong the agony, because they don't feel wet so it's okay, and they went in diapers and that was okay, so it's not a big enough step. Real panties is the way to go. I used the "do you need to go potty?" frequently also, and if it had been two hours, with no potty, I'd ask them to come try anyway. Had some issues with poopy. My eldest would hold it in rather than go on the potty so we did end up putting a pull up on once a day just so she would stop holding it in, but then we'd make her put the poopie in the toilet and she just made the adjustment to going on the potty when she was ready. Good luck, and don't worry, it will straighten it's self out.

Holly - posted on 03/31/2011

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does he wet on porpus when he wets will he come to u and tell you he did or does he hide it. thanks holly

Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2011

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@Elizabeth Northrop: That makes sense. Especially since no matter how much I correct him at least once a day he'll slip and say diaper instead of pullup. I was thinking of sucking it up and dealing with the mess of underwear/clothes accidents and think it's definitely time! Thanks for the encouragement!

Arica - posted on 03/31/2011

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I don't know, my daughter does the same thing. She is 3 yrs old and she did so well than she just started wetting herself, but she knows how to go potty, maybe it's just something they are going through. Hope it get better for the both of us.

Jennifer - posted on 03/31/2011

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I'm in the same boat! My son was doing FANTASTIC - even staying dry about 50+% overnight - and he just won't keep dry during the day for the most part :( If he's bottomless, he's 100% perfect but if you put a pullup on him, he's back to going in it again... It's SO frustrating... If he's at Grandma's, he'll go to the toilet. If we're in a store, he'll usually end up holding it until he hits the door at home then goes right into the bathroom. So I'm really feeling your pain! My son is 2mos away from 4 (we got a late start potty training; I know I missed the window to get it done earlier because I never potty trained anyone before and was never around any babies before him :( ) I'm to the point where I'm gonna bite the bullet and put him in some undies that he really likes and just let him pee in them and see how yucky that feels; if he poops, bye-bye undies they'll get thrown away. It'll be tough (and MESSY) especially with a 2-weeks-short-of-one year old but I don't know what else to do to break him of the 'laziness' or maybe comfort? of the pullup.... I hope you get some good advice I can use too!

Segale - posted on 03/31/2011

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I think its a phase that all kids go through. My daughter had been potty trained since 20 months. But the shortly after she turned two she started wetting herself. She never #2 or did it out in public cause she knows that #2 is really uncomfortable and if she's in public she can't get changed right away. This lasted for about 2 weeks, then she went back to using the potty again. Just be a little stern with him and he should go back to normal soon.

Tonia - posted on 03/31/2011

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Emily, what a fantastic idea! I am starting to get a little frustrated because my four old has regressed twice within the past 7-8 months. We could just be watch TV together, and she will wet herself. And let's not mention the bedwetting..UCKK! Anyway, I am going to try your method!! Sound to me like it will work!! Many thanks!

Lorena - posted on 03/30/2011

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a lot of kids regress...I think it's because they simply loose interest. I would continue to praise when he uses the potty right and when he has accidents "oh, oh...you had an accident, next time you need to let me know so we can get you to the potty in time." then have him help you with the cleaning process...that is what I did with my son. Also, are you having him wear underwear around the house?? Easy to clean and much less constrictive for him. What does he do when you take him potty, does he freak? or is your only problem the accidents??

Bernadette - posted on 03/30/2011

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teach him to clean up after himself, he can do it and it will remind him how messy this is

Bernadette - posted on 03/30/2011

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keep reminding him to go to the toilet and make a big thing of encouraging him with clapping and hugs not lollies or food. Is there another baby? Maybe he is too busy at home or needs some more attention

Arianne - posted on 03/28/2011

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My three year old does this too. I had a baby in December and I think it is his way of saying, "I need attention!"

Allie - posted on 03/28/2011

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@Elizabeth...No, nothing has really change...I try to stay calm and I know Im not suppose to be mad at him..but Im thinking by not getting mad...he thinks its okay?

Teresa - posted on 03/28/2011

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I used to make it a game by putting 3or4fruit loops in the toilet to make it target practice! I have 4 sons and it worked for them! It made going fun and I would also bug them every 10 minutes or so by setting a timer. After a while they became conditioned to go after becoming tired of mom asking if they need to go.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/25/2011

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Jennifer that is ingenious! I love it!! I was reading thinking..oh it's going to be a tired old post about rewarding him for good behaviour but then I got to the good part where you get a treat too LOL

Elizabeth - posted on 03/25/2011

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It is normal for children to regress sometimes. Has anything changed at home recently? Those are my first thoughts.

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