how do I get my 4 year old daughter to be more social

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Sandy - posted on 01/22/2009

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Im sorry i Haven't got back with you, I only have 4 kids LOL I understand what you r going through. cameron came home one day and said that a friend told her she did't want her as her friend anymore. And that broke my heart then I asked her what were you two doing and she said playing a game.Well the story goes, she got mad b/c she lost and told Cam she didn't want her friendship thats why, and one day I saw her tell another girl if you don't sit by me Im not going to be your friend, so i guess shes just a brat and will grow out of it. So just reasure her they don't mean to be that way.

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B10msm - posted on 01/10/2014

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How do I get my 4 year old grand daughter to be more social she is very shy and starts school in August we would like her to be able to mix easier with others

Jamie - posted on 01/04/2009

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no not yet but I am going to get her into pre k asap the biggest probelem is that she thinks ppl don't like her if they don't do exactly what she wants them to do.. And then it hurts her feelings and she cries

Sandy - posted on 01/04/2009

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I can understand how you fill, My doughter is the same way but when she started School in pre-k it helped. All she talks about is her new friends and how she wants to go back. Is she in School?

Paulette - posted on 01/04/2009

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If she is a really shy girl, I would recommend play dates with your girlfriends children or her cousins if they live nearby. It is only one on one at first. Then building up from there.

Sally-Ann - posted on 01/04/2009

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We tried may things to try to get our children to makes friends and play with others. They got along pretty well with others but did not make friends with the children we thought they would. As they started going to school they started making friends with children they grew close to. You'd start hearing the same two or three names over and over again. I found that as long as we monitored their behavior and let them make their own alliances they seemed happier. Some of them were more apprehensive than others but they all have their own unique friendships. We realized we tried to force them and once we backed off everything was okay.

Johanna - posted on 01/04/2009

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Here is worked for my son. I had a roll of fun wacky stickers and when we got into playgroups and situations where I would like him to be more social, I would pull out the stickers and ask him which sticker he wanted to give to someone. It was great because all kids love to give and receive stickers. People and kids really respond great to getting a sticker. Especially the adults who might know that my son was struggling they would kneal down and ask them something about the sticker and that would get my son interacting and he really responded to that. He would get so excited to see people and kids wearing his special sticker he gave them.

By the time my son was 6 he was really out of his shell.

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I agree with Kandi's reply. At this age chn are often not yet ready for direct one-on-one interaction, but you can encourage them to start playing alongside others by asking your child and the other child questions (if ok with parents of course :) I also used to find that other children wanted to join in if I was playing an activity, as simple as with a ball or building something, and inviting them in, while slowly withdrawing so they take over.

Kandi - posted on 01/03/2009

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It's best not to force her to talk with "strangers." Therefore, joining a local playgroup, visiting the library during story time, or similar activities were you can be present to help teach her will encourage her to open up. Perhaps if she sees and hears you making new friends with other adults, she will feel more comfortable doing this herself with children. - hope this helps

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