How do I get my 8yr old daughter to sleep thru the night?

Shaylene - posted on 03/25/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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She has no problem falling asleep, but she wakes up 3-5 times a night says she is having nightmares, she never can remember what they are about or dosent cry so I think its just and excuse. she is usually awake for atleast 20 mins each time, I am tired any suggestions would be great thanks

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Jessica - posted on 03/26/2012

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Put her right back to bed when she wakes up. Letting her get out of bed will tell her body it's ok to be up even if she's tired. maybe get her a cd player that plays classical music at a low volume for her to listen to when she's awake. It works for my daughter

AnnMarie - posted on 03/26/2012

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If this is a new problem you need to try and see whay has some changed that may ne causing this. If it is something that she has always done it's probably more out of habit than anything else. My son is 8 and till two years ago he would wake up almost every night & come in my room to snuggle. I told him he was getting so big there wasn't enough room in the bed for all of us & i would take hom back to his room &do he was fine. After a week or so he stopped comming in & if he does wake up he gets himself back to sleep. At 8 your daughter can understand that she needs to try to get herself to sleep. Get her a book light & have her read if she wakes up & can't get back to sleep right away. Tell her if she is scared then she can come wake you up but otherwise she can read a book in bed till she is sleepy again. Maybe she needs a little more light in her room at night so she doesn't wake up scared. Wish i had some other ideas for you to try. But i think making it clear that you also need your sleep &a unless she really needs you she is not to wake you up is a good start. She is old enough to understand & try to help herself get back to sleep.

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Frances - posted on 03/27/2012

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What about a special bed-time prayer before falling asleep? It just might help her feel a bit more relaxed, safe, secure & protected. I know it always worked for me, even now as a grandmother! Good luck & God bless!

Shaylene - posted on 03/27/2012

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WOw thank you all for your help I will start trying all these suggestion and hopefully one of you has the answer I have been looking for. I will make her anouther doc appointment and put my foot down that he helps me. thank you all

Connie - posted on 03/27/2012

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I agree with what the others have posted. I had really bad dreams at that age to the point of panic attacks. I can now pinpoint the incident that started the nightmares, but I couldn't have back then, I was too young to understand how it upset me. I also had trouble with my tonsils/adenoids and breathing, especially during allergy season. We naturally wake up 3-5 times a night as we go through our sleep cycle, we have just learned to go back to sleep. Unfortunately, if there is stimulation it can become a habit, as it has with your daughter, of fully waking and then having trouble going back to sleep. I agree that at 8, even if the dream is really bad, she should be able to stay in her bed and go back to sleep. Any talking or activity will just reinforce to her body that she needs to get active, and the opposite is what you want, for her body to relax and go back to sleep. My mom told me to think happy thoughts and to always remember that my dreams were my own and I was in control of them. I eventually learned to control my dreams and change them when they became scary. It took about a year for that to happen, but the happy thoughts worked almost instantly to get me going back to sleep quickly. My son calls it going to his "happy place" in his head when he gets upset or has a bad dream. Best of luck. I feel for you and your daughter going through this.

Kelsey - posted on 03/27/2012

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My daughter still wakes us too. She just usually comes in our room and sleeps on the floor. My mother told my daughter (aka Mi Mi) that if she would sleep in her own bed for a week that she would get her a little tent for her bed. That didn't last one night. She was awake that very night. I have tried music and that didn't help. I don't know about the reading yet but that is something to think about. She will wake up to go to the bathroom but she doesn't wanna go back to her bed. She just cries when I ask her. I suppose anything is worth a try. I will try to keep up with any ideas as well.

Lee Etta - posted on 03/27/2012

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Maybe she is waking up because of a physical problem. Does she still have her tonsils and adenoids? Does she snore? Both of my children were waking up numerous times in the night because they had sleep apnea due to enlarged tonsils. Please have her checked out by a doctor.

Kim - posted on 03/26/2012

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I put my daughter on a rewards programme to sleep through and it has worked for me, not immediately but after about two weeks she realized this was a win for her and she enjoys her weekly treat, we allow her one night a week-end to come through so she now knows its a treat and she is a big girl and big girls sleep in their own beds, she also has a scarf of mine she sleeps with which makes her comfortable that I am with her.

Shaylene - posted on 03/25/2012

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Thank you. I have gone to the dr but he doesnt seem to want to do anything to help me. I will try to talk to the school maybe and see if there is something that has happened that she hasnt told me about. thanks again

Chrystal - posted on 03/25/2012

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Is this a recent thing? Did anything change around about when it started (change at home, school, friends) maybe she is bothered by something and it's causing nightmares. I agree with Katherine maybe a chat with her doctor is a good idea.

Katherine - posted on 03/25/2012

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I used to have really bad nightmares as a child. You may want to talk to her doctor about it.

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