How do I get my 9 month old to sleep, since birth he never sleeps and it's very tiring.. He also just cries and screams.. Please help

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Joyful - posted on 12/04/2012

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I had to shut the door and let him cry it out or go nuts. Go in every 5-10mins reassure him, with a pat on the back and check if it was a burp and put back to bed. I sorted out that he did have reflux and dealt to it. I also learned not to respond to him crying early hours of the morning- he would settle down after a few mins. I use to get up and rock him back to sleep but that just woke him up totally, so with my plunket nurses suggestion. I just had to let him resettle himself. These events happened around 3am -5am and it was just him 'baby dreaming'.

Elfrieda - posted on 12/04/2012

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I don't know about your son, but I'll tell you my experience with my son. He was "colicky" as an infant, screaming inconsolably for most of his first 3 months. After that he was better, but still very fussy and had to be held/entertained all the time he was awake, which was most of the time. We had to do elaborate and ever-changing things to get him to nap. When he finally fell asleep for the night he usually slept really well and long, but naps were just impossible. I'd jump up and down and rock him for 45 minutes (not easy when you consider how enormously heavy he was) and then he'd sleep for 15 minutes.



Looking back on it, I realize that he just got used to being held all the time and we never trained him any other way. (I mean after 3 or 4 months when he was just fussy, not screaming in pain all the time) And because I didn't have a lot of experience with babies, I didn't know much and was too tired to learn from other people. So I just focused on enduring it rather than fixing it.



But I got my period again when he was 9 months old and it was HORRIBLE. I was losing blood at such a speed that I got very anemic and tired and couldn't really walk or think. For two days I was so tired I could barely take care of the basic necessities. I would feed him, watch him play a bit, then it was time to put him down for a nap (normally I tried to have him nap twice a day, once in the morning and once at night) but I was too weak to do any of the energetic bouncing, etc that he was used to. I decided that he was safe in his crib and I was going to faint if I didn't lie down, so I was going to leave him there and go have a nap, too. I was so tired that I didn't have any extra energy to feel bad about leaving him there crying. So I did it. Twice a day.



And when I felt better on the third day, I put him down and he went right to sleep! We started having a set bedtime and routine for nighttime (it included story, singing, leave for 15 minutes, then come back and rock him to sleep) and after a month or two he didn't need us to come back after the 15 minutes to rock him because he was already sleeping. After about 10 months old he was a champion sleeper and MUCH happier during the day. Everybody pitied us for the first 8 months and envied us for the last 2 years! I don't know how much of the happy boy he is stems from him getting enough rest, but I know rest plays a significant part in it.



So, my advice would be to let him cry for the duration of his nap and see if that works. I don't know if you've been spoiling him like I had been with mine, but if you hate to see him cry and never let him work anything out on his own (like I did) give it a try. It was easier for me because I had no other choice, but now that I see how effective it was I would do it again.

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Elfrieda - posted on 12/05/2012

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Aw, I don't know. :( I find the baby stage so difficult, you're always second-guessing yourself. My son's almost 3 and it's so nice to say, "What's wrong, do you have a stomach ache?" and get an answer. Hopefully you'll find out what's wrong and be able to fix it.



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Coleen - posted on 12/05/2012

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That's true, I haven't thought about probiotics.. What is the name that you use? You right, after he started on the antibiotics, he got a really bad rash first, then it went away. Now this.. I'm really up for trying anything at this stage. I'm really worried as I don't know if he's having effects or whatever, he doesn't have a fever, he still eats and drinks etc.. Just the crying part and not sleeping? Do you think he might have cramps or something?

Elfrieda - posted on 12/05/2012

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Good luck with the training! I wonder if he still has an infection, or has some side effects from the antibiotics that are bothering him in some way. If I can offer some more advice based on my experience with my son, I'd suggest giving him some probiotics. (I used the powdered stuff that needs to be kept in the fridge and then sprinkled on his food) After the 1st time my son had to go on antibiotics he just kept getting sick. After a particularly bad one (ear & throat infection) I started the probiotics and he's been really healthy for the past 2 years. I don't know if it's coincidence or not, but it might be worth a try. Antibiotics kill the good bacteria as well as the bad, so the idea is that probiotics build them up again.

Coleen - posted on 12/04/2012

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Yes, he was also a very colicky baby, I'm struggling with him to sleep properly since birth. I kinda got used to it but the last week or so has just gotten worse. He had ear and throat infection last week and with antibiotics he seemed to get better. Then from Sunday it all changed. He is also very very spoiled with being in the arms the whole time and loving attention, like all the time. He started creche with his brother and they also battle big time with him not taking naps and wanting all the attention.. He will be okay if i'm in the room, but as soon as I leave he goes totally bezurk! Screams and cries like he's being abused or something. I just feel so hopeless and tired.. Last night I thought I would start trying the sleep training.. Wow what a mission.. After about 5 times of going back, he finally fell asleep. But he wakes constantly and rolls around, like he's just not comfortable. At 4 this morning I put him in the bed with me, and that seemed to work, for a bit.. I will carry on trying this sleep training and see. How will I really know if he's got pain or something? He's been to the doctor the other day and he said he was perfectly healthy. I changed his formula also about 2 weeks ago.. Can it be that?

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