Lesley - posted on 01/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My 9 yr old daughter slept through the night in her own bed since she was about 18months old. However, over a year ago, she started coming in to our room and waking me up, saying she was scared. Initially, I would walk her back to bed, soothe her, rub her back and get her back to sleep. The moment I leave her room, she wakes up panicked and races back into my room. This has beenm going on for well over a year. Every morning, I find her on the floor beside my bed. She says she's afraid something will happen to her or us int he night and she'll never see us again. We have tried everything we can think of. We positioned her bed so she can see ours and leave a hall light on and both doors open; we've tried night lights and white noise, and we've tried a reward system for staying in her room all night. She is now seeing a counsellor to try to figure out why and how we stop it but even that has been going on for over 6 months with minimal, and fleeting success. My primary concern is that she does not get a proper nights sleep and is exhausted and sore in the morning. The other effects are that I don't get a good night sleep and it's challenging for my husband and I to enjoy any intimacy, given that our door has to be open or she panics and if she wakes and finds it closed she practically goes into hysterics.
Anyone have any advise or thoughts?