HOW DO I GET MY ADULT CHILDREN TO LET ME INTO THEIR LIVES

ROSANNE - posted on 11/11/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I DO NOT HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM AND ONLY TALK TO THEM ABOUT ONCE A WEEK WHEN I CALL THEM. THEY DO NOT LOOK FOR ME, ONLY WHEN THEY WANT A BABYSITTER.

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Andrea - posted on 11/11/2013

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That's sad. :( As an "adult child" with kids of my own, I feel bad for you. The only advice I can offer you is to evaluate your own attitude toward your kids. Were your relationships with them better before they left home? Is it a distance/busyness thing that they do not realize they are hurting you, or are they intentionally avoiding you because of hurt in the past? Do you create a negative environment when with them because of your hurt? Can you feel yourself becoming bitter toward them? If you can, I guarantee they can feel it to. I guess the best thing I can suggest is to talk honestly with them, and give of yourself lovingly to them. Even if it inconveniences you. Babysit those grandbabies! Keep calling them! Don't gossip about one sibling to the other, or ever put down your kids even if you feel disappointed. Show them love and they'll respond with love - and IF they don't, you will have set up the foundation for a good relationship with your grandkids, and a good reputation with others who see the good work you are doing.

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