How do I get my child to eat?

Heather - posted on 07/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 15 month old will not eat unless she throws her food on the floor first and then eats it. I can't get her to eat out of a spoon or off of a plate anymore. This just started a couple weeks ago. How do I get her to eat without it hitting the floor first?


Elfrieda - posted on 07/19/2012




Is she mad because she wants to feed herself? My son did this at that age if I gave him too much at once, and he certainly didn't allow me to feed him with a spoon. I didn't give him a plate or a spoon, because all he'd do was wave it around and throw it away in frustration. I had a plate of cut-up pieces out of his reach, and would give him 2 or 3 pieces at a time. If it's just that she wants independence, I'd look at that as a good thing. So what if she gets messy hands?

My son ate by himself and freed me up to have a pleasant meal while others with babies that age let their own food get cold because they insisted on keeping control of every speck of their children's food. I just let him go for it and wiped him down afterwards. Much more pleasant dining experience for both of us.

Then he had to sign "more" before I gave him more. If he whined, no food until he signed instead. If he threw the food away, I said "You threw the food away. You must be all done." and took him out of his high chair and he could cry and eat the leftovers off the floor if he wanted to.

He was (and is) a food lover so this was pretty effective, except with the unfortunate side effect that he figured that when he truly was done, the proper thing was to throw everything onto the floor. :P But we worked on that next and now he's pretty good at the table, and at 2.5 I don't feel stressed at all about taking him into restaurants or to people's houses. (he did eventually learn to use a fork, then a spoon, and now is working on knife skills)


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Elizabeth - posted on 07/19/2012




Don't give it to her. Feed her yourself and if she refuses then take her out of her high chair and let her leave...if she cries because she wants it put her back in the chair and offer to feed her again. Continue until you get your way.

She will eventually be hungry enough to let you have your way. Kids that are hungry don't refuse food. Keep in mind that this won't last forever...everything comes and goes in stages with children. In 3 months you will have new things to worry about and won't even remember this one probably.

Remember that children in Africa aren't starving because their moms made a meal they didn't like.

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