How do I get my daughter to quit carrying around her blanket. Naps and bedtimer are fine.
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Nadine - posted on 09/03/2009
Don't worry about it! They will grow up in time, and that time will go by faster than you want it to! So, what does a blanket hurt? Nothing! If it hurt someone or something, I would say get it away, but when they grow up, you will only miss the days they carried that blanket around! Trust me! Been there 2! I now have that blanket that is almost rotten material but I would not part with it for all the money in the world, but my child eventually did!
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Tiffany - posted on 05/12/2011
Baby steps. My daughter is 3 1/2 and still sleeps with her "Bunny and Baby." Bunny is a small blankie with a bunny head and Baby is a pink baby seahorse that plays music. She only sleeps with them now as we started working with her on how they need to sleep during the day due to pretty much working hard all night, so they need a rest. When it comes time for bath time for Bunny, she usually helps me put it in the washer herself. That way she knows where it is. If this doesn't work, do a load of colors when your daughter goes down for a nap or bed time and wash it, dry it then give it back, she should never know it was gone. It takes time to get them to realize that they are going to see them again as soon as they are clean and dry. Go with your gut instinct mom, if she isn't ready just keep trying things, eventually something will click. I wish our daughter stuck to the pacifier, they can be
thrown out, she sucks her thumb. By slowly getting her to realize she can go the day without Bunny and Baby, she has stopped sucking her thumb so much during the day. We started out slow, when at home they slept. When we went somewhere in the car they could tag along even into the store, then they started staying in the car. Now they stay home unless on long trips. At home if she was going to lay down on the couch an watch something with us, she could have them, or if she got really upset over something or hurt and needed them for comfort. Now they stay in bed all day and only leave if she is napping in my bed, which is a rarity in and of itself, or during trips she is going to be sleeping in the car. Baby steps is the best way to go if you feel your little girl needs to be weened from something some.
Most children will outgrow it but you can't take a blanket to school and you don't want to take it to the park or grocery store either. My cousin started a tiny tear in her son's blanket when he wasn't looking and kept commenting on how old the blanket was. She continued to make the tear a little larger each day. Her son was very upset about it and she said, "Your blankie is getting so old and you carry it so much. That's why it is getting torn. Maybe we should try and save it by only using it when we are in the bed. Otherwise it may rip more and we'll have to throw it away." Well, it worked and she sewed up the tear but only on the condition that it would stay in the bed and never leave the bedroom.
Stevie - posted on 09/03/2009
i use to suck my thumb and carry around a blanket and you know i just stoped on my own i honestly think thats the best way atleast for a blanket tell her that she can take it on long trips but (idk how old she is) or to school or in a store i dont remember taking mine EVERYWHERE but i know i never wanted it to leave my side i loved to hold it and smell it idk i loved how it smelt and i just got over both things on my own i dont remember my age but i know it was before i was 8 lol she will start to not want or need it so much the older she gets
Nadine - posted on 09/03/2009
I know this is my 2nd reply, but after I read all the comments about moms having the same trouble with blankets, I have to say, "Dont worry about what other people think! Their children have their own hang-ups, & in the end what did it really matter? What or who did it really hurt?" I would love to go back to those days! Treasure the blanket days, they wont last forever, I promise!
Kim - posted on 09/03/2009
Let it be. Blankies only last so long. My 4 year old is outgrowing is. It used to go EVERY where. Now all three of them just sit folded on his bed. Sometimes he wants one just for a few minutes. We let him carry it everywhere he wanted and he decided when to give it up. If you are worried about it being dirty just have three and rotate. Don't worry about how it looks or what others think. Children are only kids for so long, let it be.
Holly - posted on 09/03/2009
I found that just about when things became inappropriate, my kids stopped doing whatever they were doing. It won't hurt anything if she carries her blankie. Just don't let her take it to school. Tell her you don't want it to get lost or dirty but that it will be waiting when she gets home. It won't make her weird or backward to have her lovey, but it MIGHT make her insecure if it is taken from her when she needs it.
Maggie - posted on 09/03/2009
I have never heard of anyone cutting up their child's lovey...would they do that with a stuffed? I hope not! Start by setting limits - she can have it in the house but not when you go out...then cut back from in the house to only in bed. If it's gradual it will be less of a fight. Good Luck!
Maria Liwayway - posted on 09/03/2009
hello, Jen, I am Maria from Philippines, u know i had an experienced on that about my eldest son, he always carry along with him his blanket until at present even if he was now thirteen...i think, no matter what we will say to them not to carry yet our kids will really miss it and they make it comfortable for them to sleep or to do the activity with their blanket. In my case, when i was young i used to have my mosquito net, then when i was old already, i just cut a half meter and still carry it like watching movies and quit that when i was married coz my husband didnt want it....
For now , Jen, all i can suggest is that let your daughter carry it, time will come she in her own will leave that....i can relate coz i can feel how missing it.
Jennifer - posted on 09/03/2009
I know this may sound mean, but cut it in half or into as little as a square as you can handle. Keep the unused pieces. Give her the little square to carry around then give her the bigger piece at bed time. Then start asking her to leave the little square at home. You also could try positive reinforcement with this and make a big deal of the times she leaves it home without being asked, or doesn't put up much of a fight.
Danielle - posted on 09/03/2009
my little girl has a blankie and she luvs it so much i try 2 leave it at home wen i go out but she wont settle 4 a nap in her buggy wivout it if we r out i dnt mind her carryin it around at home but i hav washed it that many times its got all bobbly and tatty and it makes me look like ive gave my daughter a scabby bit of rag but she luv it lol i cant really help u here as im in the same situation lol x
Sandi - posted on 09/03/2009
Logan, 4, is a tag rubber and his blankie was small enough to carry around with him, so what I did with him is that when I got up in the morning I would hide his blankie before he got up and take it out before he went up to bed at night. It was hard at first, for both of us, but in the end it worked for me. Now when he needs one at home, I have quit a large blanket with a soft tag that is harder for him to carry around. When we go out, it stays home!!
Veronica - posted on 09/03/2009
I have the same problem with my son. At least now we don't have the scenes we used to have about not taking it into the store. I've comprimised with him, he is allowed to have it in the car, but when we go in a store or somewhere, he isn't allowed to take it in. I have no suggestions here. I have tried to leave it at home and tell him we forgot it, but he just throws a fit the whole time we are in the car.
Heidi - posted on 09/03/2009
One of my daughters is 3 and she loves her blankie. She just carries it around at home and takes to bed for naps and at bedtime.. There have only been a few times that she wanted to take with her out side the house, but told her blankie had to stay home so it wouldn't get dirty.
Do you just want the blanket to stay home?
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