How do I get my daughter to sleep in her own bed instead of mine?

Ashley - posted on 10/08/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 1/2 year old and an 18month old. My youngest daughter goes to bed at about 7p.m. everynight in her crib but when it's time for my oldest to go to bed at 8, she has to have me lay her down and it is always in my bed. after she falls asleep, i move her to her bed but she wakes up at like 4am and comes back to our bed. What can I do to get her to not need me to fall asleep and to go to bed in her own bed?

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User - posted on 10/08/2012

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If being the funny goofy mom at bedtime isn't working be firm with her. I know this may sound uncouth but letting her get upset and you giving in shows her she can get away with it. Tell her you've asked nicely, you've told her you're trying to protect her and now her getting mad your being a good mommy hurts your heart. All you want is for her to be a big girl, show her sibling that the only one who sleeps in your bed is you and daddy and the fact she had tantrums makes you feel like she doesn't want you to look at and treat her like a big girl. It hurts your heart for her to act like that. Even if she wakes up her sibling, be firm. After a few days of not giving in to her and you not bending or letting her " win" what she wants she will adjust. Your mom, put your foot down and tell her that fussy stuff isn't working anymore. She's almost 4, its time she realized out bursts do not get her everything she wants.if you don't put a stop to it now it can and will only get worse.

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Ashley - posted on 10/09/2012

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Ya he has a bad problem so I just prefer he stays out of the way at bedtime. He will just make it worse. Our 3 year old loves him to death but refuses to lay with him at bedtime. So I'm on my own. Easier if I just do it most of the time.

User - posted on 10/09/2012

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Sometimes reminding him you didn't get yourself pregnant helps but also that daddy daughter talk may help too. Best of luck tonight.

Ashley - posted on 10/09/2012

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I will try these things but as of right now, I don't get any sleep anyways, and dad doesn't help at all at night or during the day really so it sucks. He just complains if the kids get up and wake him up at all.Wish me luck. Haha

Jessica - posted on 10/09/2012

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I agree, if the other hasn't worked, then you'll just have to keep putting her back in her bed, until she figures out that where she's supposed to sleep.

Mommy and baby sister will probably lose sleep during this period of time, but once the new routine is established, everybody gets sleep. Yay!!

It's not easy, at all & you might feel guilty &/or frustrated for a lil bit.

But mommy getting a good nights rest is worth it.

Says the mommy responding @ 3:22 AM.

LOL

Ashley - posted on 10/08/2012

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Thanks for the advice. She likes her room during the day but she just has to be with mommy all the time so she doesn't like sleeping in there. As far as the potty situation, we have been lucky with her because she has never had an accident over night and will wake up and go potty even from our bed if she has to go. She also sits there and cries and wakes up her sister if I try laying in her bed with her.

User - posted on 10/08/2012

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Make her room her safe place. Night light, a special animal that's there to cuddle her. Try putting her to bed in her own bed, when she wakes up at 4 take her potty so she listens to her body and put her back in her room, she's becoming a big girl and as a big sister she needs to sleep in her own bed, in her own room to show the baby we all have our own sleep space. You can cuddle together but as a big girl she needs to be an extra awesome big sister and show her sibling how its done. I mean when mommy was a big girl she didn't sleep with granny anymore. Be silly about it. You feel bad if you fart by her or snore and keep her up. She has her bed and room for a good quiet no stinky farty mommy snoring her death. Lol not saying its true you do those things but play the I love you enough not to keep you awake and have you smell mom us stinky butt all night. And after a few days of telling her the same thing she will adjust to the idea. It will also get her to be dry all night too. Use her wake up as a chance to get her on the potty and praise her for listening to her body. After all it tells you when your tired, yawn, when your hungry, grumble is the tummy, when you have to poo, then make the fart noise with the stinky hand wave, oh you have a headache, you must need some water. Listening to her body is good, being tormented by mummy's is a funny way to let her know you care but subconsciously your like kiddo mummy's ready to have the bed to herself.

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