how do i get my husband to concider having a baby?

Erica - posted on 04/05/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband and i have be together 4 years and will be married 2. He has a 4 yr old son that will soon be 5 that he had before we was together. i treat him like hes my own which gets me thinking that i want a child. i tried to tell my husband that i want a baby and that i dont want there to be a huge age gap between the kids. but all he keeps saying is if it happends it happends.... i asked him last night what he thought and he said that the summer is coming and that i wont be able to go hang out with friends like i usually do and i tried to tell him i can have fun with out drinking and partying but he thinks ill be missing out. i want to conveince him i want a kid.. i have to decide by next week i go see my dr. for my annual and i have to tell her if i want a renew on birth control or if i tell he im thinking of get pregnant? please help me decide what i should do. i know i cant force my husband to have a kid with me that just wrong to do but how can i convience him?

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Louise - posted on 04/06/2011

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You need to sit down together and talk this through if he says it happends it happends ask him to explain what he means. you have been married about the normal amount of time before couples have babies and it is a natural progression. Ask him to air all his worries with you and then talk through them calmly. Tell him how much you want this child and that you are ready to be a mum. There will be alot of talking before you come to a decision. it must be a mutual agreement as you do not want him to fling the baby back in your face when things go wrong.

Erica - posted on 04/06/2011

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well hes 26 and im 25 and no we only get him every other weekend 6 days a month. but pay a shit ton in child support.

Jodi - posted on 04/05/2011

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How old are you? Maybe he IS concerned you are too young. Maybe he feels both he and his ex were too young when they had their son, and he is concerned that you may not be ready? You talk about having fun without drinking and partying, and MAYBE your husband is being sensible about this. Do you have his child full time?

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