How do I get my son to stop hitting?

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Malinda - posted on 02/20/2009

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When our son started this behavior, we told him that "we don't hit" and then redirected him with a "soft touch" and example of what touching nicely feels like (we have pets, so we practice "soft touch" a lot). If he did it again, he had a brief time out (like 30 seconds in his crib at 10 months) and then a hug and reminder about "soft touch." The behavior passed *very* quickly with this approach.

Lacy - posted on 02/20/2009

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He is 18 months old, He hits me, my  nephews, not so much his father! I have tried to scold him but it doesnt seem to matter! He just turns around and does it again! I am more worriied that it will get worse if I don't stop it now!

Sarah - posted on 02/20/2009

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its normal for a child tostart hitting,



 



many choldren thinks its a way to get what they want



 



but just tell the child what they are doing is naughty and show them what they have done. maybe he will change his attitude, im not promising anything because every child is different



 



you could try hitting him back just as hard and if he crys let him know how that feels for you or anyone else maybe he will realise that it hurts and that its not very nice.



 



 



good luck x

Susan - posted on 02/20/2009

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sooo true i believe that my cousin bite me and my mom bite her right back it so worked i dont think my antie was too impressed but all in all it worked

Jenny - posted on 02/20/2009

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I'd just hug her, my sons are 13 months apart and the oldest is starting to hit (hes 17 months) the baby and I think he is just trying to get more attention so I tell him "No. We love the baby" and I give kisses to the little one and spend a bit of "lap"time with the oldest

Susan - posted on 02/20/2009

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i have two boys and the older one was always hitting his younger brother i tried everything and there was no way i could change it i really dont know where this is going except that they are now 13 and 15 and they are inseparable the best of friends and the 13 year old still tries too get his older brother so upset so that he will hit him he doesnt though so they do grow out of it. just keep on it every time he hits make sure he knows thats not the thing too do.

User - posted on 02/20/2009

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the thing is a dont no where she picked it up she just started doing it one day. dont think there could be any way she would have seen hittin. i have an older daughter 5 and she as never hit. maddie duznt go to nusery alough i do take her to alot of groups but i am there with her and ive never seen any child hit her. she can be just sitting on my knee and i will b chatting to her and she will hit me. if shes doing it at only 10mnth how will she b when she gets a little older?? im honestly really out of ideas !!!!!!!!!!

Cathy - posted on 02/20/2009

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it depends on what they view hitting as. Do u smack when they do something wrong as they might see it as the same when they think u doing something wrong. If they in a pre school or nusery school it could be defence they learnt from other kids and we all know hitting is a form of saying no, defending ourselves from something we do not like or want done. Or they have seen it in real life like television or videos. There are many reasons for a child hitting u have to take the time to find out where they picked it up and then u can fix the problem

Krista - posted on 02/20/2009

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what if you actually start crying maybe that will trigger something in her thinking she is really hurting mommy and may stop

User - posted on 02/20/2009

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ive tried to smacking her hand but it duznt work. a think she thinks if mammy can hit me then i can hit her. ive started sitting her as far away from me as i can she duznt like that but she still wont stop. ive never heard of a child at 10mnths hitting, some people say that a child will only copy what it sees but she has never saw any1 hitting before. shes gt me really upset cos she was and stil is a lovley little girl and i love her to bits but dont understand why she is doing it. ive even found myself flinching when shes on my knee thinking that she is going to hit me, ts also th look in her eyes when shes doing it. i so need help with  her!!! 

Krista - posted on 02/20/2009

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I had a child bite me before and he only ever did it once..when it happened his mother went over and bit him. His face said it all....he caouldnt believe she did that but he never bit anyone again! I guess sometimes they need to know how it feels before they actually stop

User - posted on 02/20/2009

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my daughter is only 10mnth and she hits me ive tried everything but she wont stop!!!!!

Nina - posted on 02/19/2009

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Ugh! My daughter just started hitting, its not too bad but no matter how many times i scold her, she just does it again and again and even tries to hit me. She apologizes right away and rubs the person where she hit them, but I'm afraid she will begin to think as long as she says "sorry" it's ok. I've been told to hold their hands together and come down to their level so that you are eye to eye and tell them "No, you do not hit." But obviously that's working wonders. Help us please! lol.

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