How do I get my toddler used to Sunday School? She has never been left with a stranger.

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User - posted on 10/06/2013

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No my son was having a good time and then he looked around for me and I wasnt there so he got upset, they immediately brought him to me. I know he didnt have a hard time or anything, He just simply cant be away from me for too long especially if he is in a new environment. and Im trying to work on that, especially with preschool coming next yr. If you dont trust the person responsible for the children I suggest you get to know them better so when you do let your toddler to stay with them, you will know that they will follow your word if anything does arise.
What would you suggest for when they do get to school if they dont want to stay and are crying the whole day to go home? I know that I sure did when it was my first day of kindergarden, it was they worst day of my life, I thought my mother abandoned me and I didnt understand what was going on. It probably would have helped me if I wasnt so attached to her and I wasnt always with her.
Im not saying at all Im right or wrong, but I would like to know, what to do in that type of situation. I mean I dont want my kid to be upset all day without me there, but isnt there a time to give them a nudge towards in-dependency. I know it needs to be over time and not all at once. I dont want my son to have a bad experience and for it to last a long time, but if it only lasts for say 10 mins and the he calms himself down, and afterwards has a great time, I feel he would be making a big step forward, because he has to learn that mommy cant be around all the time. I would be doing what is best for him. It hurts as a mother to let go, but doing it step by step I do not see a problem with that. We have to give them wings at some point, maybe not big ones this young but enough to learn from

God Bless You, and I wish you the best

Jo Ann - posted on 10/06/2013

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I do not like the idea that they will get used to it. Think of the trama that the childs goes through for 20 min. I think I should stay in her class for awhile and see what is going on there.

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I would like an answer too! I just started taking mine. He stayed for 20 minutes and then cried until he could come to me, but wouldnt go back. Im a stay at home mom, so hes very comforted with me being there, and not used to being alone with others yet. I figured the only way for him to get used to it is to keep taking him and letting him take his time with it. I dont want to push him into staying when I know he will only cry, but maybe the time he does stay he will start to realize how much fun it is. I suppose him continuously going every week, he will get used to it, just as in kids are when they have to go to school or daycare, they eventually get used to it.

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