How do I get these temper tantrums to stop!? HELP!

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hello!
Okay so, My son is going to be two in a few days. He has b een throwing these temper tantrums for about a month and a half now. They are getting worse and worse. At first it was just the normal crying and getting upset. Then he added screaming bloody murder into the mix. Then he added stomping and throwing himself on the floor, regardless if he hit his head or not. And just today he started to bash his face into the cement outside because I took him off of the swing in the back yard.

I am not really one to complain or even tell my family business to strangers, but I seriously need help with this. I have tried everything. I have tried ignoring it, smacking his butt. Putting him in the corner, putting him in his room, yelling back. Mimicking him. Everything. Nothing seems to work. It's only getting worse.

I am pregnant with my second child. (30 weeks) So I am getting more and more tired everyday, and his kicking is really starting to hurt me,a nd Im afraid it's hurting the baby inside of me. I have literally tried every advice people have told me to try. Nothing works. Is there such thing as a behavior person for a 2 year old? I just need advice.
I've even tried a reward chart for when he's a good boy. Everytime he does what hes told or helps out or gives kisses for no reason, he gets to put a sticker on his good boy chart.
Nothing is working!!!!

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The tantrums are most likely because you are pregnant and the idea of change scares him. My daughter would throw the horrible fits up until my son was about 2 months old and a routine was starting to form.

What I did that seemed to help was ignore the behavior. But afterwards I would talk to her about why she did what she did. I tried giving her words to describe her feelings. Was she frustrated, angry, sad? What made her feel that way? I found that once she had words to explain her emotions she was able to handle them better.

Another thing I did in conjunction, was offer more choices. But only on things were options made sense. So I would let her pick between two types of veggies, if she's like milk or water, or which shirt she'd like to wear. This gave her power over tiny things, and made it so that we had fewer power struggles.

There were and are still fits, but they are nothing like they were before.

Change is scary for kids. It will most likely not get better until after the baby comes.

The most important thing is to be consistent. Things wont improve over night, it might even take a few weeks to see anything.

Cherish - posted on 08/08/2012

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But he does say the words,like if he wants a drink he will say "I want juice"(or whatever?)
Can he follow one step directions like "go get your shoes"?Will he point to things to show you or look at things when you point to them?
Here is info on 2yr old milestones and a number to call to get a free evaluation if you are worried(in the US)
http://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/miles...

If he can make requests and follow directions,and he is just having tantrums,IGNORE them.Believe me I KNOW how hard it is to ignore,but he has learned that thru tantruming he can get his way.
Do not give him ANY attention for a tantrum,don't say "whats wrong" or "stop",just pretend he is not there.
When he is being lovely praise him for good behavior,say things like "I like how you are playing nice",or whatever.
Two of my favorite parenting books are "parenting with love and logic" and "the explosive child"

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2012

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He's developed as far as he should be. I mean, the only problem that we have with him is that he won't repeat words when we ask him to. Like we'll say, " Say daddy." and he won't. that's the only problem we have is that he won't play parrot. He knows how to say the words, and he has before, but he wont do it on command. Other than that, we have no problems as far as his development, or anything. Just his temper tantrums.

Cherish - posted on 08/08/2012

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Is he meeting all his developmental milestones,or does he have any delays?

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