How do I go about getting my 21 year old son tested

Sheri - posted on 11/12/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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He has all the signs for being autistic. He was tested at 18months but they said he was not autistic. Every time I brought it up to the doctors they just said he has anxiety, but I feel it's more then that. He has anxieties about the outside world. Doesn't like talking with those he doesnt know. He keeps to himself and doesn't have friends and no interest about what he wants to do with his life. He has speech problems among everything else. He was in special Ed classes all through school. They never tested him while in school. I feel they pushed him under the rug so to speak. He does have a learning issue and was diagnosed with a learning disability. He doesn't cope well with any new things, such as finding a job being on his own, leaving the house. When I talk to him about those things he gets major anxiety and shuts down. I need to find him help. He doesn't have insurance here in Texas. Any help is appreciated.
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Sheri

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Dove - posted on 11/17/2015

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You can issue an ultimatum... He seeks help or finds another place to live. You have to be willing to stick with it though

Sheri - posted on 11/17/2015

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I'm not trying to force him to do anything he doesn't want to do. We did the Counsling thing already. They gave him Meds and he had a bad reaction to them now he won't take anything. He's really good at gaming and computers. Tried to suggest he take some online classes for both. He can't just continue to sit in his room for the rest of his life.

Jodi - posted on 11/12/2015

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It is not the school's job to test for autism. Just saying.

And at 21, it isn't up to you to have him tested, or anything else for that matter. It is up to him.Sure, you can support him, but unless HE is the one that wants this, then you need to back off. I agree with the others about the counselling, but again, that's his choice - you can't force it on him.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/12/2015

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You can support, but otherwise, unless HE asks you to help him, you can't.

Raye - posted on 11/12/2015

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I agree he should be in counseling. He may have low self esteem because of the speech impediment and being singled out at school. Some level of anxiety is healthy, he just needs to find that balance where it doesn't make him completely closed off or shut down. He needs to be more comfortable in his abilities and focus less on his disabilities. He needs to learn how to cope and go out into the world.

Dove - posted on 11/12/2015

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I'm not sure a diagnosis is really necessary at this stage, but counseling is a must.... and should have been happening years ago.

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