How do I go about this and not have after affects that are going to hurt her?

Marrie - posted on 07/24/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi, Im currently pregnant with my first child. Her father left at the begining of the pregnancy and is not married and has another kid on the way. I have found out that my daughter is going to be special needs. She has a type of skeltal dysplasia that they can diagnose til she is here. But i am 20 years old and trying to finish school. I have my families help, but it has mentioned me going for welfare, because i am living under my parents house again and they will need money to help with bills, and with her being different its been agreed for me not to work for a little while til she gets older. If i do that will they persue him for child support? He is gonna judge her and me with her being different and his family will do nothing but start drama so i dont really want them around but only because im scared its gonna hurt her. So would they? and if they do is he automatically given rights? I dont trust him with her. After we broke up and he changed into someone i never thought he was. I just dont want her hurt in the long run. Any adivice?

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Marrie - posted on 07/25/2012

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Thank you! I have a wic appt. on the 1st. I know they have a list of lawyers that will see me that can help i will ask for. Thank you very much.

Krista - posted on 07/24/2012

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My best advice would be for you to go to legal aid and see if you can talk to a family lawyer about what your rights and options are. You really have no way of knowing HOW your ex and his family would react to you pursuing child support, but I imagine that the funds could prove to be quite helpful with all of the expenses that you are going to have raising a special needs child.

If you pursue child support and the talk comes up about parental visitation, you might be able to persuade the judge to rule for supervised visits. Where she'll be special needs, it probably won't be hard to convince the judge that the baby needs her mother present at all times.

But yeah...try to see if you can go consult with a lawyer, before you do anything else.

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