Audrey - posted on 07/20/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hey y'all! I've been having problems with my unborn child's father for quite some time now, I need a bit of advice.
I am almost 10 weeks pregnant come Monday, we found out when I was 4 weeks. We ended up breaking up shortly after because our relationship was NOT healthy by any means. All we ever did was fight because he was a bit controlling and I was rather jealous of the way he acted around my former close friend. Something just wasn't "right."
Ever since then our "friendship" His and mine, has been rather wishy washy. It got physical at one point because he kept insisting I abort and I just wasn't having it. I decided then and there that I was going to contact his father and tell him exactly what was going on, which was not advisable on my part. My child's father ended up shattering my phone and I couldn't contact anyone. That's when the physical confrontation occured, on both parts. I overreacted, as did he. Since then we have been some what civil but every time we talk we end up fighting. He goes from telling me how he cannot wait for our baby to be born to telling me I'm a nasty slut and the child is not his. He is so wishy-washy.
I really wish I knew what to believe or how to react to his childish behavior. I ended up blocking his number for a bit, removing him off of my social networking sites and not contacting him at all. He tells me he loves me, yet an hour later he flips and tells me he wishes he had never been with me nor touched me. It's worrisome. I don't want our child to sense the animosity. It kills me to know I conceived with someone who couldn't care less about me half the time.
What should I do? Should I keep giving him chances at my heart for the sake of my child? Or should I just give up on him as more than just the person who helped me conceive. I'm tired of crying, I'm tied of feeling lousy. There's so much pain building up. I was so excited about our child coming, now I'm scared that it's going to be a battle forever!
OHHHHH! Don't forget that he claims that if I don't comply to everything he says, that his RICH mommy and daddy will file papers to try and revoke my rights as a parent and try and claim sole custody for themselves. I may only be almost 20 and in college, but I will be no means considered an unfit mother. Growing up with 12 siblings, I've had my fair share of child care. PLEASE HELP!