How do I handle separation anxiety with my 5 month old?

Ashley - posted on 12/20/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Help me please!
I just started working for the first time since my son was born (he is 4 1/2 months old). I waitress and work nights, today was only my 2nd shift and I already had to leave work early because my son was so upset. I left him with my sister (who has a baby 1 month older than my son and works at a daycare, point being shes great with kids). He was fine at first but after he woke up from his nap he started screaming and crying hysterically non-stop, it was so bad it caused him to swallow huge gulps of air and gag! By the time I got to him he had been screaming for over an hour. My sister said he was so worked up that she has never seen a baby that upset even throughout her years of working in childcare. Once I got there and held him he was calmed down and quiet within 2 minutes, and happy and cooing within 10 minutes. The only time I've ever heard him scream like that before is when I tried to go out for my birthday (which ended short due to him being upset). When my mom and sister watch him during the day he is fine, but it seems when it is closer to bed time is when he gets upset.
He's a bit more sensitive than other babies his age due to stress in the household, like his dad leaving, which has caused him to become even more attached to me than a baby already is to its mother.

Has anyone dealt with this before? Can you give me some tips in how to help him overcome this separation anxiety??? Please help I don't want to loose this job!

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Deserae - posted on 12/21/2014

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Maybe try recording a bed time video of yourself for him. Something with your voice on it to help him cope when u cant be there. It would probably help or by leaving him a shirt of yours with your sent on it so he feels you are still near. The more your child sees a routine of him being with your family more the easier it gets he will then see it as a routine and he will be happy. Good luck hope this helps

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Ashley - posted on 12/22/2014

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Thank you! I recorded several videos of me talking to him and he loved them. He did much better this time. My sister said he was still a handful but atleast he didnt' have a complete freak out / break down this time. When he watched the videos of me it calmed him down and even made him smile a few times. I also left the shirt I had slept in the night before with him so he could have my smell with him and that seemed to help to. Thanks so much for the advice!

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