Therese - posted on 01/10/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I had my son when I was 16 years old. I was lucky to have help from my family, but lets face it they weren't very responsible themselves. We are all very caring and have great qualities, but when it came to reading and doing well in school I think it was believed that was up to the school system.. As I have grown I have realized how important it is to read with your children, especially since that lesson came with watching my own son struggle.. I did not always focus on what was best for him, I guess because I was still growing up myself.
He is 12 years old and now struggles in school, and has fallen behind mostly in reading and his ability to pay attention, along with making lasting friendships. Plus he doubts himself..
I find myself constantly repeating myself when it come to him being responsible sometimes even lashing out at him and making him feel bad. I blame myself that I didn't do more for him as he was growing up. I know there isn't anything I can do about the past, but its very important to me that he knows I am here for him and want the best for his future.
Behaviour wise he is a great kid and with the many changes( even moving away from family, which has become especially hard because although I did not agree with how he was learning, we are very close) I have seen a positive change in him. I am just having a hard time thinking that he is hurting because of my mistakes.. How do I help him to believe in himself? How to I help him advance in school? How do I support him and let him know that even though things were not that great when he was much younger, I want to make them better now? I feel like I am losing it, and like I am all alone... Trying to take responsibility..