How do I help my 14 year old son have an interest in this unexpected baby?

Bonnie - posted on 07/24/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I recently remarried and then became pregnant. We didnt really want any children but God said we are having a baby. My son is 14 years old and totally not interested in babies. He acts like my 8 month old neice and her 3 year old sister have the plaque! How can I help my son accept this baby and possibly even help? Of course I realize my husband will and should help more than my son. How can I make my son not feel left out or displaced?

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Amy - posted on 07/24/2012

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I wouldn't expect him to help with the baby, this is your baby with your husband. Yes it would be nice if he did but I would let him come to terms on his own, it's probably a shock to him and he's going to need time. If you want him to babysit or watch the baby then I would pay him just like any other babysitter you would use, he shouldn't be required to do it. And I'm pretty sure at 14 years old I thought kids were the plague too, lol.

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Kim - posted on 07/25/2012

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My husband and I had another baby when our eldest son was 10, they are now 12 and 2. I think your son will be more interested when the baby is able to communicate with him. Our 2 year old shows big brother many ways that he loves him and wants to be like him. The 12 year old calls him the worst alarm clock ever when he runs in his room and says "WAKE UP" but we laugh about it. My husband doesn't particularly enjoy the infant phase either. I think we would have had 10 kids if they came out age 6!

Bonnie - posted on 07/24/2012

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lol.... At 11 I wanted to babysit and my littlest sister was born then. I thought it might be a gender thing?! I dont expect him to help much, maybe be another pair of hands?! Anyway, thank you and I would definetly pay him to babysit!

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