how do i help my 8yr old make friends, and deal with mean kids?

Joni - posted on 07/27/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter is 8. Self confident except when making friends. How do I teach her to make friends. Kids her age just don't seem to like her. She's cute nice giving polite. A lil bossy. Help.


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Chaya - posted on 07/27/2012




I've called the police on bullies, not often, but the kid had been harassing my ward for years.
Ask the children why they don't like her, if it's just a matter of not having things in common, find something. If her being bossy is the issue, address that.
I had a hard itme making friends when I was a kid, so all my friends were adults. Social services should have caught on much earlier, particularly because several of the social workers went to my dad's church.
It's very important that your childrens friends are within a year or two of her in age. She's not going to learn how to act like a child if she doesn't learn to be one.
I'm not saying you are negligent or abusive, but if a child doesn't know how to behave around children her age, that's something to be concerned about.

Angela - posted on 07/27/2012




Help and support your daughter but do so behind the scenes. Don't be obvious in your support of her in front of other kids. Nothing will bring greater scorn from her peers.

The other thing about making friends applies to kids and adults alike. No-one values or respects anything that was a little too easy to come by - that includes friends. Tell her not to look as though she's trying too hard.

Good luck.

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