Amy - posted on 09/26/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
How do I help my son not feel guilty about things out of his control?(Sorry so long) Perfect example was this weekend. My son (8yrs old) really wanted to go extreme bowling (11pm-1am) so last week we set up some extra stuff we needed help with around the house & told him if he did his normal stuff plus the extra we would take him on saturday night. He did above & beyond what we asked, so saturday night we went bowling. My husband was messing around & decided to bowl with my ball & his finger got stuck etc so he ended up with a (slightly) torn muscle in his hand. My poor son was almost in tears & said he wished he hadn't compleated the chores because if he hadn't finished everything plus more, then we wouldn't have gone bowling & then dad wouldn't be hurt. It took me and my husband about 5min to calm he down & help him realize that it was in no way his fault. I felt bad. I feel it is my fault because when he gets in trouble we always go over cause & effect. Basically, your actions & decisions do not only affect you but they also affect others around you etc. What do I do now to help him realize that in situations like this it is not his fault?