Angela - posted on 06/09/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been married for four years. His daughter is nine and my two daughters are seven and six. We have full custody of his daughter and I share custody of my two with their father; they spend a week with me and a week with him. My step daughter's biomom has four children total, all by different fathers. I don't know how things work in her home and I don't care but she barely has anything to do with my step daughter. This is blamed on my husband who fought for four years for custody and finally won. The biomom could have regained regular visitations if she would have done what my husband requested which was to pass a drug test and go to at least three counseling sessions with my step daughter. That was three years ago and she has not done such. The biomom is constantly telling my step daughter she will do things like show up for her soft ball games (she actually did once but she made goo goo faces at her new baby while my step daughter hung on the fence of the dugout like an orphan calling out "mama" and completely ignored or "didn't hear" her.) or send presents from the last three Christmases and birthdays and never does. My step daughter surely feels abandoned. Her father and I can only do so much to help her and soft ball has helped. She's only nine and hasn't hit puberty yet but already has an attitude and I am not that great at keeping my cool with attitudes.. I know that's awful seeing as I am in a house with three girls that will, no doubt, have some massive attitudes when all of them hit puberty. I'm trying though. How can I help her deal with her anger of being abandoned? Besides counseling..