How do I keep this baby?

Harper - posted on 10/11/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am so upset, I have a almost 2 year old son and have found out that we are expecting again in June 2013.

We are young. I am 18 going on 19 and my fiance is 19 going on 20.

Heres a bit of back story;

I am still living at home with my mother, 4 siblings, myself, fiance and our son in a 4/5 bedroom house.

My mother is very disappointed in us, It was one time and we screwed up.

We pay our way and are not on welfare, we have a car but still trying to get a driving permit (we have just been lazy about and catch buses)

I just want this to be a bad dream. We need to moved out if we have another, Im scared we wont be able to keep up with bills even though my fiance makes 27 a hour it only on call and there is never a set amount we recieve.

We supportour little family easily but we do rely on my mother for our washing and meals.

I'll be honest I am a lazy mother. I dont do our washing, do not cook often and I'm slow to do the housework or though I do take 100% care of my son.

I dont want an abortion or adoption I couldnt do it but I am prochoice. I need a hug! No one here will listen, my fiance is upset and my mother is angry.

Its keep it or magically miscarry. I have begged the heavens or whoever is up there to just give this chid to someone who will take better care of it.

Someone anyone give me some hope that I can pull this off and carry this child and be a good mom!!

I honestly want to die right now.


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/11/2012





Ok, so most of the advice that you hear is not going to be fuzzy hugs and kisses. Really, you need to stop being lazy. You are a mother, and you have responsibilities. First off, get your license. There is no reason for someone your age to not have a license to drive. Secondly, find a new place to live. It is not fair to be putting this burden on your family. This is your life, your kids. They should be there to be emotional support, not financial, nor should they be expected to raise your kid and child to be.

Where there is a will there is a way. If you do not want an abortion, or to put your child up for adoption, you both need to kick it into high gear. Your fiance makes decent money. If you are not paying for meals or laundry, you should have a nice little nest egg, so wherever you are splurging stop. You have a car that you are not driving, so either get your license, or sell the car. It is just an added expense if you are not utilizing it. Set a deadline to move out, and during that time save every cent you have. Kids are not cheap as you know, but you should have your own place to live beings you are going to be a family of 4. Getting government assistance is not a defeat if you really need it, but you need to work for what you have.

If his job is not permanent, one of you needs to find full time work so you know where your next paycheck is coming from. Personally, from the perspective I have, it sounds like you are sponging off your family, and that will not change until you move out and fend for yourselves. Your motivation should be the new baby, and the child you already have. I don't care about your age, you made your bed, now pay for it. Literally.

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