How do I know when its time for my child to stop taking naps?

Jenny - posted on 04/17/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3 1/2 and she hasn't been taking naps for several days now. I give her quiet time in her room, so she has the opportunity. At night she gets really upset about everything, no matter what time I put her to bed. She will scream and cry if something doesn't go just right. It is driving me crazy and I'm having to do this on my own because my husband is in the military and on deployment. I try to take time for myself, but it is just getting to the point that I want to cry myself.

How do I know she's ready to not nap anymore?

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Jenny - posted on 04/18/2012

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There is a bedtime routine, which we have to do at nap time, or even just quiet time. She gets upset if I break from the routine, which I suspect is one of her ways of dealing with daddy being gone because she used to not be like that. Fortunately for me she did take a short-ish nap today, so I'm hoping that she goes to bed and sleeps at a decent time tonight. At least I know she shouldn't have a hard time with it.

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I think the simplest way to answer your question is to say that she will let you know when she's ready. Everything about being a parent is such "guess work" sometimes. My son stopped napping when he was two. When I was a child, I remember taking naps all the way up until I was around 5. So when my son first started not napping, I tried everything to get him to at least lay down for awhile. You know what happened? It was an hour long struggle every day and at the end, both of us were frazzled and frustrated. So I stopped forcing the issue. He's 4 now and still doesn't nap except for once in a blue moon or if he's sick. So if your daughter is begining to protest naps so much, then maybe just let her not nap. I mourned the loss of that one sweet hour of mid-day "me time", trust me! But in the end, not having that struggle every day was worth it and just made me enjoy and appreciate my "me time" after he went to bed at night.
Also, my husband isn't military but he has worked nights for the last two years. So I think on one level, I can relate to you doing all of this by yourself. I've often felt like a single mother because my husband is so rarely here, especially at night. In your case though, with your husband deployed, maybe your daughter is still getting used to the changes? I don't know. I'll leave that aspect of it for other military moms to answer.
Anyhow, my best advice about the naps is just to let it go. Pick your battles. And breathe, Momma....don't forget to breathe. ♥

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I wanted to answer this with, when you no longer feel like you need a nap, but as moms of young busy children, and even high spirited teens, we may never not need a nap. So with that said, it is good that you give her the chance for quiet time in her room, but is she really being quiet, or is she playing with every toy in site? It sounds like she still needs naps, but it may be a battle to get her to take one, that in itself can use a bit of energy reserve on both parts. So instead of putting her directly to bed at nite start bedtime with some more quiet time like a book to read to her, or warm bath and short calm movie or show. Basically you are getting her ready to get ready to go to bed. She will have time to slow her brain down and be more receptive to bedtime, especially if its not a sudden occurrence. If its possible make it start at the same time every night, without variations in what you do.

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