how do i make my 12 yr old son like going to school ?

Dina - posted on 01/29/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son hates school to the point that i had to switch him to another one that seems better in terms of the quality of education. Each and everyday he is extremely sad that he is going to school . It can get to the point where he tries to catch a cold!

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Jodi - posted on 01/29/2013

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Beth is right, I know lots of kids who like school. I also know lots of kids who don't. And I teach high school, so I am talking about older kids.

However, as 12, it isn't even an option, so don't allow it to be one. School is his job. Just like you and/or your partner work because your job is to support the family financially, it is his job to get the education you provide for him. You need to sit him down and make this clear to him, and let him know that if he can't do his job, he can't earn any privileges (such as having friends over, electronic gadgets, music, whatever his currency may be), just as if you don't do your job you won't get paid.

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

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kids don't like school. what child would RATHER go to school than stay home and play games.... I don't know of ONE! ESP at that age, you have to make it to where it is NOT an option.

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Dove - posted on 01/29/2013

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My preteens 'like' school. Of course they would rather be hanging out at home, sleeping in, watching movies all day, etc... That is perfectly normal, but they do like school for the most part and are always striving to do their best (well.... usually, everyone has off days sometimes).

My almost 5 year old, on the other hand, asks me every morning if it's a school day (he goes 5 days/week) and every day says he doesn't want to go to school and he's done with it already.... and he's in preschool. I've got a LONG road ahead with that one. ;) I just let him know that school is his job and not going isn't an option. I have a feeling I'll be repeating that sentence for YEARS. lol.

Beth - posted on 01/29/2013

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I don't think most kids hate school during their preteen years or any years (at least not the kids who actually thrive in school)

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

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how old are your kids? if they are younger and have more time to socialize, yes they love school... because it is a socialization thing, but when you go from elementary school, when you have recess and play time, and then transition to middle school, were it is more learning and NO RECESS, there is quite a bit less socialization, kids begin to hate it... esp during those awkward preteen years

Beth - posted on 01/29/2013

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My kids do like school. Learning can be fun and normal kids enjoy the socialization.

Holly - posted on 01/29/2013

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PS, I've told my children that if they don't feel good, they STILL have to go to school, but if they begin to not feel good they can go to the nurse and if tehy have a fever then i will come get them, but they will come to work with me and sit in the back office where they will not disturb me.

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