How do I make my children's father realise his kids need him

Clare - posted on 11/11/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My children's father seems to have no interest in his kids at all

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Clare - posted on 11/13/2014

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Thank you Raye just it's so hard as my teenage son has major anger issues and when questioned by a youth worker it all seems to boil down to resenting his dad for not wanting to be around, and I tried for years to create a relationship between him and kids but I no longer try what will be will be just can't get my head around it.

Raye - posted on 11/13/2014

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If you try to force him or guilt him into doing it, he will resent those kids, and that's worse than him having no involvement at all. It's sad he doesn't want to be in their lives, but you need to stop worrying about him and just give your kids the best life you can give them. Your kids will be fine.

My parents divorced when I was six. My dad didn't want anything to do with any of his kids (1 from first marriage, 2 from second marriage, me from third marriage). I had very little contact with him for the most part of 15 years. Now he's "friends" with me on Facebook, but I didn't invite him to either of my weddings, and I'm really just indifferent to him. I'm pretty well adjusted and have a normal life without him.

Clare - posted on 11/13/2014

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I have tried, he seems to take notice for about 2 weeks then goes back to normal no calls or visits to kids :(

Raye - posted on 11/13/2014

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Sadly, if he doesn't want to participate in the child's life, there's not anything you can do to convince him. My step-kids mom cancels some of her days, and when she does take them, she pretty much ignores them. That's harder on them I think than if the parent just isn't around at all. Because my kids are disappointed by her all the time.

Aradhi - posted on 11/12/2014

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My husband thinks he shall intrude only when my 8yr old will enter teens. Until then I have to manage. Tried to talk it out with him that his son will not bond with him then. But he doesn't care to convince me. So I let go the expectation !

Britney - posted on 11/12/2014

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Just tell him how you feel. Tell him he needs to man up. Men won't understand unless you are straight up and honest even though you might sound mean just tell them. Tell him his children will remember that all of their lives and might resent him for that

Jodi - posted on 11/11/2014

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Yes, but you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do. Just keep the door open, let him know the door is open, that's all you can do.

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