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My partner and i have been living at his Parents house for the past few months and we have been living in just one room as his family are not very friendly or open to us using the rest of the house, we move house this friday to our own place which will hopefully make things easier however i have a much bigger problem than space on my hands.
I feel absolutely terrible for feeling this way but i hate my partners son, he is 3 years old and is an awful child, there is aboslutely no connection between us, i have tried and tried and tried to be friendly with him, to play games with him, to help him, to show him that i care about him but he isnt interested, and its not just me, he isnt interested in anyone or anything. He is nasty (this weekend he chucked a tantrum because he got in trouble for punching his father in the face).
We get him 3 weekends out of the month and its becoming really hard, i dont want to sound selfish but i never got any time with just my partner and i, we can never do anything because his son is always there and when they are together, i no longer exist..this weekend i ended up sitting by myself most of the weekend because i just wasnt included in anything, my partner would just say 'i'll be back in a minute, just gonna check on him' and 2 hours later i'd still be there by myself..but as soon as his son leaves, i am no longer invisible. I dont know what to do, because i would love this relationship to last, i would love more time with my partner, and i would love to make a connection with his child but i have absolutely no idea what to do, and frankly sitting and crying about it all the time isnt going to solve anything.