how do i mend a broken family?

Gillian - posted on 05/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my babies father and i have been having a tough time this year, he is an addict, he just lost his father, he just broke up with me, he is a mess and im afraid he isnt seeing clearly, he gives me mixed signals all the time, he blames everything on me saying he is unhappy but he can forgive me then says that nothing good will come out of this, he thinks he is a changed person when in fact he just used this week, he is facing jail time soon as well,he said a few weeks ago that the worst part was missing me and our son, i had hoped by going away and by me and our son going away he would see his errors and start to change for the better like he has said he wants to do and get help. but then he goes and does this and breaks my heart and our family. im so confused and hurt, he says im not cut out of his life and to be civil with our son, but he never takes care of our son, yet he thinks he has rights and thinks he can come and go as he pleases, i cant take my baby to see him right now bc seeing him will hurt me even more, idk, i want him to come back, i want our family healthy and happy again, how do you help mend a broken family?

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Katherine - posted on 05/22/2012

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If he is using and won't get help, there isn't much you can do. You have a child to take care of and yourself. If he can't admit he has a problem..... honestly you can't change him. He has to do this himself.

You are going to have to leave him until this happens I hate to say it. Do you have close family? Can you stay with your parents for a bit? If so, you need to do that. Otherwise you are going to be miserable.

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Gillian - posted on 05/23/2012

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i hope he will realize his errors and see we are the best things to ever happen in his life, whether its too late or whatever i hope he realizes it. i hope i can get some closure so i can sleep at night.

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