how do i potty train?

Misty - posted on 12/09/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




my son has started everything early he started crawlin at 5 months walkin at 10 months hes very smart he knows sighn lang and i like him to start early at everything he is now a yr and a half and i want to start potty trainin but he doesnt care about the potty atall all he wants to do is flush his little potty ive tried showin him what its for but he doesnt even want to sit on it for more than a couple of secs........ how do i get him interested in wanting to even just sit on it?


Callie - posted on 12/09/2010




The US potty trains its children much later then the rest of the world. And it wasn't until the 60's when disposable diapers were invented that children started being trained after the age of 2 (before the 60's most children were completely potty trained between 12-18 months). My daughter is 13 months and we just started learning to use the potty (wish I would have researched soon I would have started around 6 months). I bought her some generic brand pullups (have stars that fade when they're wet) because they are easier to get on and off when we use the potty. I take her to the potty every 30-45 mins. If she is sucessful we get excited and clap and I show her whats in the potty. Then she gets to flush it down the real potty. I often just let her run bare bottomed (if you're not worried about accidents on your carpet- we have a carpet cleaner). She loves being naked and I've noticed that she gets really still and looks down before she starts to go (so I've started to catch her before she has an accident). To keep her on the potty I have books and toys to play with while she sits. Sometimes I'll even give her her snack while she sits on the potty. Maybe try a finding a toy (or book) he really likes and giving it to him only while he sits on the potty. I also bring my daughter into the bathroom when I go potty (so does my husband) so she sees us using the potty. We also have her sit on her potty while we use the big potty. Make sure you consistently use the sign for potty so he'll start to associate it with the potty. Also you could try putting in where he spends the most time (ie living room) so he gets comfortable with it. Maybe start by having him sit on it with clothes for a couple days or a week and then move onto sitting on it without clothes. We talk about how much better it feels to be dry/clean when we change our daughters diaper and talk about how pee/poop goes in the potty. I know she doesn't understand everything but she understands some. She knows how to throw away a dirty diaper (or anything) if I tell her to put it in the trash. Sorry this got long and I was rambling (kinda tired). Good Luck! He'll get it; just be consistent and relaxed about it. I bought a book called Early Start Potty Training. You could probably check it out at your local library.

Abbie - posted on 12/09/2010




I would say to NOT push it, potty training is a totally different game from what I hear. My son is 2.5 and used to think the potty was a neat thing, and we went and bought him a potty chair and a potty seat, big boy underwear blah blah blah, and still to this day, he refuses. I personally am ok with it, from everythign I hear they will do it when they are ready. The average age for boys is around 3 ( from what I have been told) I am not pushing it because also potty pushed and child started training is only about a month in difference. There are also signs that they are ready, 1-waking up dry in the morning, 2- staying dry for long periods3- hiding from you when pooping,4- asking to be changed when wet.


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Sherri - posted on 12/10/2010




I think you have very unrealistic expectations on this one. But here is a general check list to generally use to see if your child is ready.

Use the checklist below to measure your toddler's progress toward readiness, and keep in mind that starting before your child is truly ready doesn't mean you'll finish sooner — it's more likely that the process will just end up taking longer.

You don't have to wait until you've checked off every item to start training. Just look for a general trend toward independence and an understanding of what it means to go to the bathroom like a grown-up.

Physical signs

Is coordinated enough to walk, and even run, steadily.

Urinates a fair amount at one time.

Has regular, well-formed bowel movements at relatively predictable times.

Has "dry" periods of at least three or four hours, which shows that his bladder muscles are developed enough to hold urine.

Behavioral signs

Can sit down quietly in one position for two to five minutes.

Can pull his pants up and down.

Dislikes the feeling of wearing a wet or dirty diaper.

Shows interest in others' bathroom habits (wants to watch you go to the bathroom or wear underwear).

Gives a physical or verbal sign when he's having a bowel movement such as grunting, squatting, or telling you.

Demonstrates a desire for independence.

Takes pride in his accomplishments.

Isn't resistant to learning to use the toilet.

Is in a generally cooperative stage, not a negative or contrary one.

Cognitive signs

Can follow simple instructions, such as "go get the toy."

Understands the value of putting things where they belong.

Has words for urine and stool.

Understands the physical signals that mean he has to go and can tell you before it happens or even hold it until he has time to get to the potty.

Staci - posted on 12/10/2010




My son was early (he's reading at 4) and I waited on potty training mainly because I had my second before he turned 2. If you are interested we did emersive. straight to undies and followed him around for a weekend asking him all the time if he had to go. Lots of accidents, but he was potty trained in 2 weeks. I waited until he was 2.5 though. I think the more they can communicate, the better off you are, we will be starting my daughter 2 yr 5 mons in January, same way.

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Being early at somethings doesn't translate to being early at others.1 1/2 is pretty early. You can't interest him, the interest must come from him.
I trained my grandson this week. He's 2 1/2. His parents had tried to initiate this earlier and he wasn't ready. Since I'm currently unemployed and he was staying with me, I though why not give it a shot. He took to it and it has been amazing how quickly he picked up on it. Why? HE was ready.

Callie - posted on 12/09/2010




Hayley- I've looked at those and the ones I saw said to use them for toddlers 2+. Have you used one with a younger toddler (my daughter is 13 months)?

Hayley - posted on 12/09/2010




you can get something called a family toilet seat. Look up the images on google rather me try like a moron to explain what it is lol! Might suit him better :)

Rachel - posted on 12/09/2010




I have a little boy he is now 3 and a half he also did everything early but when it came to potty training we just took it slow. the potty chair was there and he knew what it was for but only used it when he wanted to. he finally got good and would take his diaper off and go to the potty. that was when we tried underwear. that is a whole other thing cause then they still have accidents. as i was saying i think you should just take it slow. i also have a little girl who is very advanced at everything and when i say advanced she just turned 10 months old and is already walking all the way through the house with out holding on to anyone or anything but i also do not think i would try to potty train her as early as a year and a half. there is plenty of time for that let him worry about other stuff like playing and when he is ready u will see the signs that he is ready. good luck

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