Cheryl - posted on 01/24/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
My 18 yr old daughter was diagnosed bipolar when she was 16. She has attempted suicide 3 times. The 3rd time she was so defiant she was sent to a residential facility for 3 months, They put her on a medication that works for her and DBT skills. She seems like the suicide thoughts are controlled but now out of the blue she hates me. She blames me for everything that has ever gone wrong in her life and says I was never there for her when she was growing up. I am dumbfounded. I have dedicated my whole life to her. All I ever wanted to be was a mother and she has taken that away from me. I know I was a good mother because people would tell me so. I couldn't work for 2 yrs. because I needed to take care of her. She was home schooled her senior year because her anxiety was so bad. She graduated at 17 so an adult needed to be present when teacher came. Being she was under age I also needed to take her to her many doctor appointments. She says I was taking advantage of her Dad and was lazy for not working at that time. Trust me...I would have rather beeen working than deal with all the turmoil that I was going thru daily.
I have separated from her Dad because he is also bipolar and is not consistant with his medication.
I am now thinking of moving to a different state. It is only 4 hrs away so easy to visit. I live in Calif. and it is too expensive to live here on my own. I have family in Az. and could buy me a house and start over. I am fearful she will feel I am abandoning her if I move. She sent me a hurtful text saying she does not want to hear from me for 6 months, Sobbing.....makes me so sad. I am lost as what to do.