Kalee - posted on 10/27/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
I'm actually the child ... I am 21 years old. My mom and I haven't seen eye-to-eye in years, since my early teen years. I have tried several times to reconnect but I don't know how. She says the breakdown is all my fault, that she is trying. I went out of state to college and it seemed like our relationship got better. We didn't fight, no bickering, no tension ... it was nice. Then I graduated and came home and things are tense again. She wanted me home so badly, said I was her only helper around the house, no one else could understand her, and now I'm home and she's always mad at me for something. I work from 8-6 most days. I come home and I'm exhausted but I clean and make sure the house is taken care of. I'm not ideal ... my room is a mess, but I want to be sure her house is cleaned first. How do I reconnect with her? She wants me helping but gets upset when my "helping" doesn't help her (aka - I don't do it the way she would do it). I love my mom and I want her to be happy with me. I can't afford to move out, but I'm very tempted to move out anyway, because our relationship was best when I was literally 1000 miles away.