Abbigail - posted on 12/18/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am 5 months pregnant and not with the father. He was mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abusive and I believe he started doing meth again (he did used to do it a few years ago). He would disappear at 2 in the morning every night when he thought I was asleep, stopped sleeping in the same room as me and then started disappearing to his drug dealer friends house in a bigger city an hour away for days at a time.
When I told him I was pregnant he disappeared to that friends house. I waited and waited for a week to talk to him and hoping he'd come back wanting to be the guy he acted like when we first got together and he never came home so I moved out and into my parents. He still has not once tried to contact me in any way and has no interest in this pregnancy, the baby, or me. I do not want child support. The $150 or so a month I would get isn't worth it, I would pay that just to not deal with the bullshit.
My concern is that he will have a change of heart later down the road and of course he will get visitation or custody because the courts would rule that they have a right to get to know each other if he wants to and all there is 2 police reports that are my word against his and no action taken or physical proof.
Is there any legal action or paper work I can send him requesting he give up his rights now before the child is born while he is still clearly ok with the abandonment?