Marama - posted on 07/04/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
My 11 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD since he was 8. His behaviour is so terrible that even my parents won't take him for more than a day so we can have some respite. Every time we organise a family day, he finds some way to ruin it and we call it off so he isn't rewarded for his behaviour, when in actuality he seems to love the fact that his brothers are suffering too. We can't get babysitters anymore because he has been inappropriate with his brothers and we have warned our wider family so they will allow us to constantly monitor him when we are other people's houses. We have little support for his behaviour management because we are firm but fair but others think we are OTT, but get angry if he then hurts another child by accident or deliberately. My two youngers sons (6 & 7 - no ADHD), are always on the end of his behaviour and they are too often saddened by our inability to go places as a whole family. It looks like my husband and I will need to take turns to do something with our younger boys when we want to all go together.