Jenna - posted on 02/22/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )
I have been struggling lately with personal boundaries with my stepson. He is 11 and comes into my bedroom without knocking or asking permission first when my two little girls (3 and 1) are in there with me. It is a violation of my personal space and it is uncomfortable and inappropriate for a pre-teen boy to be sitting on my bed with me. Any suggestions on how to create a boundary where there has never been a need for one before? I've talked to my husband (his dad) about it several times and he still has not taken his son aside to talk to him about not coming into our room and sitting on my bed. If it was entirely up to me, he would not be allowed in our room at all, but we have never really needed that boundary before, so there's this kind of unspoken open-door policy. How can I implement an "off-limits" zone with my stepson and still keep an open-door policy with my own biological children? Obviously this kind of boundary setting would not be "fair" so any suggestions on how to deal with it would be HUGELY appreciated.