How do I stop my 8yr old from soiling her pants. I have tryed everything I can think of.

Tracie - posted on 05/27/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My dauchters father & I split when she was nearly 4yrs old. On his first visit to her he took her back to another state & it took me 6 months b4 I saw her & got her back. Through the courts...

Her toileting has been bad ever since. I have had her to child phyc, councilor, pediotri... "She will grow out of it" "She has sticky poo" "DO this" "DO that"..

Even her father says to me 'I dont know how u do this every day"

IM at my witts end. Has anyone got somthing I can try??

Thankyou

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Becky - posted on 05/28/2009

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I think what the other moms have said are all great suggestions, and I don't have anything to add to the physical aspect of helping her go regularly and on the toilet. After reading your initial question, though, I do want to add one thing, more on the psychological side. You've totally done the right thing, taking her to a counselor, doctor, etc., but I would have them probe deeper into the issue, rather than just leaving it at, "she'll grow out of it." She's clearly been through some serious emotional trauma for a little girl, and lots of times, that causes kids to, not so much regress, but revert back to toddler-like behaviors. Have your daughter's counselor talk more in-depth with her about what may be causing her to feel unbalanced or unstable. You're obviously a great mom, who's doing everything possible to help your daughter through it! Good luck!

Tracie - posted on 05/28/2009

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Thankyou for your encouragement.

I do know we will get through this. I just hope it is sooner rather than later..

Thankyou again!!!

Andrea - posted on 05/28/2009

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I am so sorry it must be very hard for you and I do not know if my advice will be helpfull because I do not have experance in older children my son is four and poo's his pants al time he was toilet trained which is why I think this may help you. My sons problem was that he did not completly poo his pants he just would not go... and as you know it has to come out so it left a sticky skid mark on his undies we tryed every thing till we went to a ped doctor he sent us for a ultra sound to make sure the was nothing wronge (there was nothing wronge) so we had a plan made out for us it was : 1. a tablet that went up his bum to clear it out so we could start off fresh ( empty bowel ) 2. Para choc (parafen oil) for the next 10week before bed time. this it come out even if they don't want to every day AT THE SAME TIME (or around that time) soo they get into the habit which is what may help you out. after the ten weeks we stoped and fine after that still going at the same time every time. Maybe have a chat to your gp and see if the para choc may help getting her to go at the same time just so you know when its going to happen so you can take her to the toilet and read her a book while she is on the toilet or something... So I don't know if I helped. but I hope so anyway..

Jennifer - posted on 05/27/2009

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Well partner has a daughter with an ex and she is over each weekend she is now 6. Up until about a year ago she did really bad bed wetting, in the night and day but it was usually because she left going to toilet till too late. We would just ask her every hour or so if she needed to go and now she goes when she needs to with no run to the toilet. It took a bit of practice but it worked. Before each meal she had to pee. Before bed and before play. Just give them a goal and eventually they will go for it. It might take time. Let me know whether this advice helps, hope it makes sense.

Bec - posted on 05/27/2009

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oh u poor thing!! My son wet himself at night till he was 9 and that exhausted me - i cant imagine how you do it!!! Im sorry i have no advice but just encouragement...i think you are wonderful, it sounds hard what you have been though and your child probably has felt all emotional herself. Kids react in all sorts of ways to stress but im sure it is fixable - i hope someone can help you! ♥♥

Bec - posted on 05/27/2009

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oh u poor thing!! My son wet himself at night till he was 9 and that exhausted me - i cant imagine how you do it!!! Im sorry i have no advice but just encouragement...i think you are wonderful, it sounds hard what you have been though and your child probably has felt all emotional herself. Kids react in all sorts of ways to stress but im sure it is fixable - i hope someone can help you! ♥♥

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