How do I stop my nursing infant from using me as a pacifier?

Shante' - posted on 11/02/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 6 month old is breastfed. I have started solids which he will only take maybe twice a day, on a good day. He rarely takes a bottle which is ok but he refuses to take a pacifier but uses me as one instead. How do I keep my nursing infant from using me as his pacifier?

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Shante' - posted on 11/02/2011

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@Ink usually if he's doing it just because I can get him to do something else without a problem but it's when it's time to sleep that nothing else seems to work. I will look him up and try what you said. Thanks a lot.

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Is he suckling until he falls asleep? Is he using the nummies like a way to soothe himself to sleep?
If this is the case, I'm familiar.
What I had to do was start finding a DIFFERENT soothing technique to put him to sleep...that didn't involve my boobies.
So...being the Google Queen..I looked it up. I found a DVD by a man named Dr Harvey Karp. His technique is named "the five s's." Search youtube...he and his work are all over youtube. Shushing...swaddling..swinging..suckling...and shaking..WHICH HE MEANS "jiggling" NOT violently shaking.
He lays the baby on his back, on his lap. He lifts his heels off the floor and lets his legs rock from side to side, on his toes. I watched the baby in the video go limp...eyes droop, and then asleep in SECONDS. He's definitely got the magic touch! He is making a jiggle that's sort of like the washing machine..almost off balance. It's a steady jiggle..like you were riding down a bumpy dirt road, or on a train. You can see when the baby goes limp...his head tends to rock back and forth like he's subtly saying "no"
So, next time I was sitting there being chewed on...I had an idea. I tucked my boobies back in..(so he's not SMELLING them) and I lay him across my lap. I started to do the jiggle..and within three minutes he was ASLEEP.
After my son was hooked on "THE JIGGLE" I started modifying it. I could hold him on my shoulder and slightly jiggle..that was good enough. Then I could lay him in the bassinette and jiggle it with my toe...he would fall asleep. Eventually we introduced him to his own bed, I could sit on the side of the bed and jiggle my foot..and it would shake his bed enough that he felt his jiggle and would fall out. Eventually I cut down on the jiggle..and cut it out completely. He would lay down and fall asleep without me jiggling the bed.
That all took about a year...to get him to the point of kiss kiss..nite nite..and I could leave him to drift away on his own.

If he's just doing it to be doing it...and not going to sleep...I would say put the nummies away and find something else for him to do. If he's doing it out of boredom...I'd suggest a toy..or some tummy time in the floor with the family pet.

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