How do I stop the feeling of wanting another baby?

Jeri - posted on 01/10/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am a 24 year old mother of a wonderful 4 year old little girl. Now is not a good time for me to have another child, but I can't stop feeling sad about it. My sister and two of my best friends are pregnant and I am jealous. I want to let these feelings go and be completely happy for them, but I don't know how...any ideas?

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Heather - posted on 01/10/2011

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Just ask random friends to smell their new babies. By the time you get around to taking a whiff of the first poop, you should be weaned off of it :) In a serious note, jealousy for people who are expecting is fine. It is the most happiest time of their lives give or take. And it is okay to miss or want that feeling back. Your best bet to combat against it for the moment is to surround yourself with things that make you happy, hobbies, interests, your daughter, my suggestion is to try things not baby related.

Jodie - posted on 01/10/2011

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I wish I had an aswer for you but the truth is I'm struggling with the same thing. We have 3 living children and 1 child lost. I love my kids but every time I look at them I can't help but think there's one missing. I would have another baby tomorrow if my husband would agree but he won't. He doesn't want anymore and took steps to ensure he couldn't have any. I'm angry that he did it knowing I wanted more. I'm getting off track... Like you, I get jealous when I hear people are pregnant or have a new baby. I don't know how to stop feeling that way. If you find an answer then please, pass it on to me!

Danielle - posted on 01/10/2011

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I agree with Deanna. I would recommend introducing yourself in hobbies and other things in your life.

I only have one child (28 months) and may not be able to have any more. I am starting to accept that he may be my only child and for that I am starting to look into things I can do for myself; ex) school, crafts, exercise, and living a healthier lifestyle.
I also find that the more I got upset about not having another child, the more I was neglecting the little bugger I already had.
It was starting to feel like I was always so concerned with having another that I was missing out of crucial moments in my sons life.
It just didn't make sense to me that I would risk potentially loosing the growing moments of the only child I could have.
Since then I have started to push it out of my mind. I am trying my best to accept that it isn't the end of the world having one child, and to be thankful that I can at least experience it once.

Be happy that you have one happy, healthy child and start thinking of all the bonding you'll have with your daughter.

Also remember that just because now is not a good time to get pregnant that it still can't happen down the road. Many people choose to have a longer duration between children.

My Mother-In-Law was 16 before her parents had another child. It's not unheard of.
Cheer up butter-cup! :)

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Not a clue. Sorry, but I don't know if you ever will be able to "just let it go". I couldn't. I had 5. One boy and 4 girls. To this day I still want more babies but logically I can't afford anymore so I started forcing myself to look to the things I could do without an infant in tow that I like doing. I don't know what I would have done if I could of only had one child. I love my babies and having babies. I am a mom and always was meant to be one. I do wish you good luck in your search. Maybe try looking at it from your financial stand point as well as what you can do with your one verses what you would not be able to do with two or more.
maybe that will help a little.

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