Rowan - posted on 12/18/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )
I know that preteens are "supposed" to be rude and insolent, but as a PARENT, I am responsible. No matter how much I tell my 12yo, she always gets irritated and say something like she knows already or just okay and that I don't need to teach her all the time. I told her that every parent needs to teach their child and is responsible until 18 years old, but she doesn't get it! I'll give you an example of her rudeness. At her school, there was a Winter Wonderland festival with games, prizes, etc. Me and my 6yo son took a picture with Santa, she just smirked, rolled her eyes, and told the person being Santa that my son is a horrible brother to her, and that Santa is not real. I was shocked! She found her friends, who is a 11th grader and the two others were 6th graders, and another group of high schoolers who were volunteering for the games. They started chatting about who's annoying, etc. I'm surprised also that some of her friends have the same attitude as her and a lot are as young as 4th graders all the way up! I don't think she got the attitude from her friends, because she's been like this ever since she was about 10 1/2 now. I made a rule to take 10 seconds to think before she says anything but she blurts out loud. I recognize its hormones, but I don't want people to think she is not polite, which she can be mature and a good girl, but unfortunately, she has bad habits in behavior. Besides older/younger kids, she also has friends her own age who can be sarcastic. The teacher even informed her behavior to me that she's really rude along with her friends. I punished her for one day, no cell phone or Internet for today but if it keeps up, the punishment will be longer. She recently got a phone because of good grades and I found she has posted lots of nude pics so I grounded her for another two weeks! What should I do basis that?