How do I tell him I'm Pregnant? Should I tell him?

Lynn - posted on 04/16/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I currently have a temporary restraining order on my ex, but I just found out that I am pregnant. If I don't tell him and later on he finds out, I am scared he will come for me and my baby. If I don't tell him he won't have to pay child support, but he may try to file for paternity and custody if he does find out. He said he doesn't want anything to do with me and that he washes his hands with me. He has his moments where he is loving, but he has already shown me the beast in him. I don't want to feel scared if he ever finds out or see's me on the street with a baby belly. What should I do?

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Sarah - posted on 04/18/2017

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I agree, you are both equally entitled and obligated to support and parent this child

Michelle - posted on 04/16/2017

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Exactly what Dove said.
You need to put aside your feelings now as there is an innocent life involved.

Dove - posted on 04/16/2017

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Your child has a right to know his/her father regardless of how either of you feel about it. He has a right to know that you are pregnant w/ his child and you and your child also have a right to feel/be safe. Once the child is born you WILL need to file for custody, visitation, and child support.

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Sarah - posted on 04/18/2017

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Michelle is right he could have prevented a pregnancy. If you think he will react badly, then tell him with another person present, or with a therapist. Certainly, if you have a retraining order in place, you should not violate the terms nor put yourself in danger. You call him your ex, how long have your been apart?

Michelle - posted on 04/18/2017

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If he didn't want to be a parent then he should have used a condom. It's not all your fault, he had a part in it as well.

Lynn - posted on 04/18/2017

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Thank you for your input/opinions. I do want him in the baby's life. You're right to say that he does have a right to be in the baby's life and be a parent as well as the baby has the right to know his/her father. I hope that he doesn't get upset when I tell him.

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