Angela - posted on 10/03/2011 ( 65 moms have responded )
This is a long story so bear with me. My sister has three children by her first husband, 2 girls aged 12 and 5 and a boy aged 8. Last year she met a man online and they fell in love, they married in june and are now trying for a baby.
My 12 year old niece never got on with this new man and in the summer holidays she went to her fathers and said she wasn't coming back. She wouldn't give my sister a reason why.
Two weeks ago my niece's father told us that she had accused my sister's new husband of showing her pornography on a laptop late at night while my sister was asleep. My sister was absolutely gutted and I called the police while she sat next to me in pieces. The police confiscated the laptop and were able to prove that there was pornography on the computer. My sister had no idea her husband was watching porn. Then my niece changed her story and told the police that it was my sister's husband AND my sister that had showed her porn. We all knew my sister would NEVER in a million years do that, we all started to doubt that my niece was telling the truth. Yet my niece does not normally lie and the question remained how did my niece know that my sister's husband was watching porn on the computer when my sister had no idea? However it was my Niece's word against theirs so the police dropped the case.
My sister was angry at my niece but they are trying to rebuild their relationship. My niece is still living with her dad and doesn't want anything to do with the husband but she is slowly beginning to see my sister again.
As far as my sister is concerned this thing is over and done with. However I went to see my niece yesterday. She told me that she is still angry at her mother for not believing her. She also told me that she changed her story to the police on purpose because she didn't want her mother to be be heartbroken and blame her for her husband being taken away. When I asked her what if it now happens to her little sister she said she hadn't thought of that.
So now here is my problem, I have a responsibility to my younger niece to tell my sister what her older daughter has said. I am dreading it but I cannot sit by and say nothing. My sister and I have always been close, she suffers from M.E and I am her carer. None of our family have ever liked her husband and we were all against her marrying him, she knows this. He is big and childish and throws a tantrum when anyone questions him about anything. However my sister is absolutely devoted to him. I think she will bury her head in the sand ans stand by him. How can I convince her that even if innocent it's not worth taking the risk that he might be a danger to her children? I don't really expect an answer to this question, I just needed to talk about it. Tell me what you think