Wilma - posted on 07/06/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
I have a 7 year old boy who was born during my marriage to my now ex(1). We had a bad marriage, so I decided to leave him. I met someone else(2) and ended up pregnant. My ex(1) said he wanted to work things out since we already had a daughter together, and he would raise the new baby as his own. We got back together, but things ended up worse. We ended up getting divorced when my son was 3, and all along thinking that my ex(1) was his daddy. During the divorce process, he gave up all rights and said that he wasn't going to pay child support for him since he wasn't biologically his, and that I needed to go find his biological dad(2). However, he still wanted my son to think of him(1) as his dad. His biological dad(2) also gave up all rights to him. I ended up meeting a wonderful man(3) who is now my husband. My husband adopted my son, and they both think and call him daddy. The problem comes from my ex(1) who seems to want all the benefits of having both kids, but only the responsibility of one. There have been some situations with him(1) which make me feel it's not in the best interest of my son to have this relationship. I just don't know when or how to explain any of it to either child. They're 7 and 9 now. Thank you!