How do stay at home moms make money?

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My husband and I got married young, and had our daughter soon after. We decided together that me staying home was the best option. We are against any and all day care (heard way too many horror stories) and our families don't live close because we live on base. (My husband is in the Army) I love being a stay at home mom! There's nothing in the world like getting to watch your child grow and learn every second of every day.

I had a job when I was in high school, but does that really even count? Haha. I miss making my own money though. Fall is coming up and I have a closet full of clothes that are too big due to me losing weight. (Not dieting, just eating healthy and doing YouTube workouts) So with that being said, I'm gonna need some new clothes. I need to go shopping for some new make-up and hair products, just girly things... I JUST WANT TO DO GIRLY THINGS AND FEEL LIKE A HUMAN AGAIN. My husband makes around $10,000 a month, we live in the peach state and we're only 19 and 21, so I'd say we're doing pretty damn good. I HATE having to ask him for anything. In fact, I don't think I've ever asked him for any money besides money for groceries. I need my own money so I don't feel guilty for all of eternity for buying myself a pair of socks with his money. & yeah, I know what you're thinking... "our" money, joint checking, weekly allowance... NO. I don't want to be blamed if something happens on his account and an allowance is just so degrading and STILL HIS MONEY. So that's definitely out.

How do you moms make money without having to spend money? Selling Avon, ItWorks and every other "give me $99 and I'll make you a millionaire" company is NOT for me because NEWS FLASH, they don't work and I don't have $99 to join your team. I don't even have $5. I know selling items like clothes and home decor is an option, but I don't want to have to sell something I love every time I want to go out and buy new earrings. Doing surveys and writing blogs isn't for me. I need a job that I can do on the Mac from home. I have a high school diploma, so whether it's a real job or not, let me know down below. Thank you! & please no rude comments, I don't have time for that shit, I'm an adult. Haha.

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Dove - posted on 09/14/2015

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$10,000/month and you 'can't' ask him for money?! lol That's ridiculous. Marriage is a partnership... he makes more than enough money to fully support his family's needs AND wants. To even post that you guys have that kind of money, but you want money of your 'own' is absurd.

Jodi - posted on 09/14/2015

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LOL, you do understand what 50/50 means, right? Talking about making half a bed, and doing half the dishes is irrelevant to what you asked and simply being argumentative. If you don't want to ask your husband for money, then don't, but honestly, there is nothing wrong with it.

I also think you are misunderstanding what we are saying about this not being the place to ask. While you may not MEAN to, when you ask how to make extra money, you inadvertently invite solicitations. Which means the moderators have to delete post and end up closing the conversation. And this is WHY it has been suggested you are asking in the wrong community. So no need to get prickly about it.

Jodi - posted on 09/13/2015

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A partnership is 50/50. That money belongs to both of you. I'm sure he spends money on things he doesn't need and simply wants and you are okay with that, so he shouldn't have a problem with you spending some money too. If you were to be blamed for "missing money" from a joint bank account, then I'd be more concerned about the lack of trust in what should be a 50/50 relationship.

However, that's entirely up to you. As Michelle said, this isn't the place to look for work for home jobs. Most of them are crocks anyway.

Michelle - posted on 09/13/2015

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Well since you have pretty much ruled out every stay at home job you may need to look at getting a job outside the home.
I know you have said you are against all child care but of course you only hear the horror stories. There are plenty of good daycares around.
Like Jodi said though, if you have both agreed for you to stay at home then all the money earned is 50/50. When I was a SAHM I had a card to my husband's account and as long as there was money in it I didn't have to ask to spend it (within reason).

Jodi - posted on 09/13/2015

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How is it still his money if you have both agreed to you staying home with the baby? It is money that belongs to both of you. Sorry, but a relationship is a 50/50 partnership and this includes the money. It is not degrading to ask for money for things you need if you have equally decided that you are staying at home with your child - that is life. If you feel degraded by it, then maybe you need to look at it differently. You shouldn't even have to ask for money.

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Michelle - posted on 09/16/2015

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Locking due to soliciting and the OP deleting their account.
Michelle,
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Jodi - posted on 09/14/2015

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LOL, you didn't hurt my feelings.....not sure where you got that idea. But I can see you got your feelings hurt so much (despite the fact that I was perfectly polite to you) you had to make random and irrelevant personal attacks against me. And for you, a self-professed stay-at home mum (no offence to ANY SAHM, providing you don't get on your high horse about it), to accuse me of sitting home all day......LMAO.

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Jodi, I've seen you on other posts and I think YOU just like to argue. I joined this site to interact with other moms. Your just a rude. You probably just sit at home all day on that computer and get butthurt about every little thing. I don't have to have a job, my husband makes plenty of money. I was just asking what I could do for extra money so that I don't have to ask my husband for any. He works his ass off for me and our family, he shouldn't have to give me money for things that I don't need. Sorry you got your feelings hurt

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I was just asking what I could do to make some extra money, wasn't asking for someone to offer me a damn job lol. I've been with my husband since I was 14, there's trust there. A relationship is 100/100. You both put in the work. I don't do half of the sink of dishes and then expect him to finish them. I don't make half the bed and then expect him to make up the rest. That's definitely not how it works around here anyway.

Michelle - posted on 09/13/2015

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Maybe ask this in the work from home communities. We don't allow solicitations here and a question like this just encourages them.
If your husband doesn't want you to have a job then he shouldn't be upset if you need money to buy yourself some clothes or whatever else you need.

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I just feel like asking for money to go buy things that I want, but don't need isn't acceptable. To ask my husband for a couple hundred dollars to go buy myself some clothes is just unheard of around here. I can't imagine ever doing that. & I definitely can't imagine ever having a debit card to his account. If money came up missing, then it would all be pinned on me and I don't ever want that. & I don't want to have to spend money in order to make money cause then what's the point (ItWorks, Avon, etc...) Leaving my child with someone I don't know/ trust is 110% out of the question. Like I said, my husband doesn't want me to have a job, he wants me to stay at home with our daughter. After being a stay at home wife and mom for almost two years, I would be miserable if I went to work. & I haven't ruled out every possibility. There has to be something out there that I can do from home that's a legit job with a legit paycheck.

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