How do they do it! How do they have emaculate organized homes with three kids and workd full time? Cause I am going to loose my mind!

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Luz - posted on 02/12/2009

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I worked two jobs because Im a single mother of 3 wonderful daughters,,,in the beginning when they were little i used to play games involving cleaning and organizing the house with me.. i never loaded them with a lot then i take them for a prize usually movies...now they are 18 15 and 9 and my house is always organized and clean,,they also cook plus my older daughter work too...Im very proud of them....

Dana - posted on 02/06/2009

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My house is by no means catalog ready, but here are some ways I cope with messes and cleaning:



1) try to set small goals for each day.  Some of my goals are vacuuming the dining room every other day, and doing atleast one load of laundry every day.



2) get the kids to help out, every day before dinner we clean up all the toys downstairs.  I find singing a song about cleaning up the toys helps the kids get motivated.  But don't worry if your kids aren't great at it right away, praise them for trying and be positive about them helping out.  Eventually they'll get it the way you want it.



3) get your husband involved.  my husband gets all pissy about the kitchen counters being clean, so I put him in charge of them!  :)



4) get a housecleaner once a month to get all the stuff you don't have time to clean.  I know this sounds extravagant but there are cheap cleaner people out there (my lady only costs $70) and once a month or once every other month is pretty easy to fit into the budget usually.



I'm not an expert, these are just things that I've done that helped me stay saner.  Hope they help you out too!

Ally - posted on 02/06/2009

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I have seven kids and another on the way...the only time my house is perfectly clean if there is such a thing is when they are all at school and the youngest are having a nap...otherwise its a kids haven...



When i was working fulltime i had a house cleaner who cleaned while i fed, bathed, and kissed goodnight...so yes after the little miracles were asleep the house was tidy until the sun rose above the hills and those little darlies eyes flittered open....



Childrens mess is a healthy mess...they cant be expected to be perfect little angels all the time....

Jackie - posted on 02/06/2009

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they have maids...LOL...it's more important to spend time with family, then to be cleaning house all day.  When kids are big enough...they can have chores, until then...do what you can, and forget about it!!!!!  until I can afford a maid, oh well!!! LOL

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Quit worrying about "them"...and about a messy house! As long as it is not a health hazard, do what you can when you can, and after that, enjoy your kids and make memories with your family because one of these days you will be where I am....in a clean, organized house and my kids are gone with families of their own. While that may sound like heaven to you now, it is actually a bit lonely. I love it when they come home and the house is a mess again! 

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User - posted on 02/17/2009

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My mother in law-whose house is basically a disaster-always says, "When I am old and on my deathbed, I am not going to be saying, "I wish I had spent more time cleaning." I am going to wish I had spent more times making messes with my grandkids."



I think she's right, and I think its a great outlook on life.

Whitney - posted on 02/12/2009

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I have 3 kids and I am a stay at home mom, my house is NEVER clean! I pick up the messes when I can when they are all taking naps, but most of the time that doesn't happen, the two oldest will take a nap and the youngest is 2 months now he gets up for his bottle when the two oldest take naps. I've decided screw it, if you don't like my house being a mess from my children then you don't have to stay in it. Kids are kids and we all know kids make messes. Even if I do get my house picked up a little bit just so it looks a little less cluttered, its back to the way it was within an hour. The only way my house will ever get clean is if my children go stay with their grandparents for awhile so I can clean, but to keep it clean I would have to have them out of the house all day. Which I'm not willing to do, taking three kids places is a big hassle especially when my husband is at work.

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because no one is home all day and they don't have time to mess up the house. ;-)

Cindy - posted on 02/12/2009

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Perhaps the answer is a cleaning lady! My Mom had an immacculate home because once a week we cleaned up so the cleaning lady came to clean. the Flylady is a great tool, and she is very sweet! Good luck!

Kimberly - posted on 02/11/2009

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Thank you to Sarah for the flylady.com - you should all check it out!!  What a great site!

Dana - posted on 02/10/2009

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Quoting Kathy:



Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow.....






for babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow.






So quiet down cobwebs; dust go to sleep.






I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep."



 



That line is from a poem I've been looking for forever, "dust if you must"  do you have the rest of it?





 

Jennifer - posted on 02/10/2009

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I love the flylady website, too!!  I haven't been back in a while, but the couple things I try to do to maintain some sort of sanity is, 1. clear the kitchen sink before I go to bed and 2.  I run though each room for 5 minutes and pick up what I can...after 5 minutes - I'm on the next room, regardless!



 



Quoting Cindy:



Do I have a perfect house.  I don't think so, however, I do get lots of comments from others who say my house is never messy so I will share what has helped me.  I am the daughter of a hoarder.  So, clutter is offensive to me.  Plus, I was never taught how to maintain a home.






A few years ago, I discovered a site called flylady.net the "fly" is an acronym for "finally loving yourself".  She has a wonderful system to help us maintain our homes with the minimal amount of effort..  It has helped me a great deal.





 

User - posted on 02/10/2009

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Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow.....



for babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow.



So quiet down cobwebs; dust go to sleep.



I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep."

Joan - posted on 02/10/2009

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Cindy Rauser...you made me think of my own childhood...yes, being the daughter of a hoarder (who was a daughter of a depression time mother), they stock up and never throw anything out. Mess does repulse me...and I tend to be OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) because of it. Often less is best at least through the early ages of child who play out of a toybox.

Carla - posted on 02/10/2009

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just try your best and dont sweet the toys and things u cant not change we all wish we could have a clean house but what can we do we have kids lol i find it fun when my 2 year old and i sing its clean up time i give her a cloth and she wash the coffee table and what ever she can and she loves it and iam spending time with her haveing fun

Cindy - posted on 02/10/2009

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Do I have a perfect house.  I don't think so, however, I do get lots of comments from others who say my house is never messy so I will share what has helped me.  I am the daughter of a hoarder.  So, clutter is offensive to me.  Plus, I was never taught how to maintain a home.



A few years ago, I discovered a site called flylady.net the "fly" is an acronym for "finally loving yourself".  She has a wonderful system to help us maintain our homes with the minimal amount of effort..  It has helped me a great deal.

Stacey - posted on 02/10/2009

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Do you think your kids will remember the time you shared with them or the clean house? Its easy choice.



Stacey

Colleen - posted on 02/10/2009

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i have a new outlook on things i was just like you ready to loose my mind over the wrecked house when i got home after 8 + hrs of busting my hump and very jealous of the neighbors who had the same amount of kids and worked also, but now heres my thing.. my kids are grown and gone now my house is never wrecked up and it upsets me.... i guess what I'm trying to say is your house and your stuff will always be there.... your kids how ever will not! don't discern it enjoy it:) they grow far to quickly boy i'd give my left arm to step on a leggo!!! i totally miss all the chaos! really relax and enjoy every bit of them right down to the clutter your especially missing a lot if your working! be happy there healthy enough to mess it all up!!! just be sure to tell them to at least make a path for you so you don't trip and fall and always make sure you have paper plates i remember how high my pile of dishes use to get yeeeeshhhh.........

Jennifer - posted on 02/10/2009

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Their homes are perfectly clean because "they" are never in them! I have 3 children, 8, 5 and 18 months. When I worked FT, my house was VERY organized (during the week), but now that I work from home and the whole crew is here more often - I can't seem to keep it clean, let alone organized! My house is in a constant state of "comfortably lived-in" sprinkled with random toys and crafts! :-)

Shirley - posted on 02/10/2009

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i also work full time and have three lovely kids, its hard to keep the house clean all the time .

Do the house chores as mucg as you can however the most important thing is to spend more time with your angels.



there will be ample time for picyure perfect homes!

and stop thinking of a picture perfect house

Jenny - posted on 02/10/2009

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I work full time, and am the mother of 5 children who are all primary age. My house is organised, but immaculate? I don't know anyone who works full time with 3 or more children, with immaculate houses unless they have maids or cleaners who come in to do it for them. Don't expect too much of yourself. Enjoy your work, and more importantly enjoy your wonderful children. No-one expects you to be perfect, and if they do, they should pitch in to help you. xoxo

Sandra - posted on 02/10/2009

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I have 4 children aged 19, 17, 14 and 4 and depending on the kiddies ages, you can teach kids to pick up after themselves, little chores. i have a lot of trouble keeping my house clean, and also live out of the ironing pile most of the time, my 19yr old is hopeless at picking up anything or cleaning up after himself, he will struggle when he moves out and my 17yr old is great at helping out, my 14yr old will help out if asked, but my 4yr old wil pick up after himself if coaxed, he loves to put his socks and undies in his draw. he has just started kindy and we're teaching him when he gets home from school to take his clothes off and put them into the laundry and hang his hat up, we made a special place things like that and after a week hes just about got it. i only wish i'd taught my older three kids some little things like that when they were little, they are all nearly adults and are very dependant on me, but i always say "so long as i have children in my house i will care for them", so the house will have to wait...

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Hey...the reality of moms with full time jobs, 3 kids and immaculate houses is that their kids aren't in that house all day...they are at the daycare/babysitters/grandma's house.  Had the same complex when I was a SAHM (my kids are grown now) until I realized that my 2 kids were home all day making messes everywhere...the working mom's kids got home at 6 and went to bed at 8...and had to eat dinner in that time as well!



Enjoy your messy house...and your kidlets...they grow up WAY too fast!!

Joan - posted on 02/09/2009

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Josephine, I'm with the others...either they have their priorities out of wack or they have a housekeeper and they're not being honest about it. My house is spotless now, but our children are all grown (only one more to graduate from college next year). When they were younger, it was a constant battle trying to keep up with their shoes, homework, laundry and dirty dishes.

I suggest you prioritize what's important and if your children are old enough, teach them how to help. Children as young as 3 can learn to pick up....just be patient. As they grow up and become self-sufficient, they will thank you.

And honestly....you're children are only with you for awhile (usually less than 22 years)...you can enjoy them now and a clean house later.

Relax and enjoy your family.

Lisa - posted on 02/09/2009

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I am not sure who you are talking about...but that is not my house. I keep it clean, but would rather get down on my knees and help make the mess with my kids. I can clean when they are older. Right now...the memories are in the messes.

Ami - posted on 02/09/2009

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Quoting Paulette:



The other mothers are right. If you try to keep a perfect house you will lose out on the joy of the children and all the memories. I would try to keep it generally clean and when company is coming for say a group of 8-10 then I would try to tweek things a little more. You could enlisted help from the older kids if possible and your husband too. If you wait till things are emaculate then you will be either lonely or alway running to other peoples homes.





I totally agree!  I gave up on the "perfect house" long ago.  My kids are happy and I have a lot of fun with them.  As long as the house is not a hazard.  Who cares what everyone else thinks.

Rena - posted on 02/09/2009

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I agree with most of the other moms on this subject. I have 2 young kids and another on the way. My house is only TRULY clean when we are having company or the kids are with the grandparents for the day! I work part time and I do what I can do throughout the day but if it's between playing soccer in the yard or doing laundry....I'm kicking a ball around with my boys! Sometimes I wish I could have the best of both worlds and have a clean house and spend quality time with my kids but my priorities are my kids! I did start a chore/reward chart for them and it does help. They get rewarded for cleaning up their toys and they even dust and vacuum with me! It's quality time WHILE cleaning! lol I know people who have the clean house and a bunch of kids and I feel that they aren't enjoying their kids to the fullest!

Rena - posted on 02/09/2009

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I agree with most of the other moms on this subject. I have 2 young kids and another on the way. My house is only TRULY clean when we are having company or the kids are with the grandparents for the day! I work part time and I do what I can do throughout the day but if it's between playing soccer in the yard or doing laundry....I'm kicking a ball around with my boys! Sometimes I wish I could have the best of both worlds and have a clean house and spend quality time with my kids but my priorities are my kids! I did start a chore/reward chart for them and it does help. They get rewarded for cleaning up their toys and they even dust and vacuum with me! It's quality time WHILE cleaning! lol I know people who have the clean house and a bunch of kids and I feel that they aren't enjoying their kids to the fullest!

User - posted on 02/09/2009

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Ok I agree with the "who are THEY?" thing but I will say this.  A while back a friend introduced me to this website called FlyLady-www.flylady.com (i think).  Its great!  She helps you set routines and shows you how to remind yourself of things-for instance, make it a habit to know every morning what is for supper that night, take a few seconds to throw the covers over the bed, etc.  It really helps to have these habits and the best thing is, its FREE!  She sells little kits and such, but you really don't need any of it to do this stuff.  And to top it all off she is really encouraging.  I recommend it to all my friends, and even though my house is far from perfect, it keeps the CHAOS (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome) away!

Deanna - posted on 02/07/2009

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I don't know how that is possible without paid help. I have two active boys and a husband. My husband and I share the load and the kids are starting to be old enough to help out. Before kids, my house was almost always clean. I have learned that this is no longer a priority and significantly relaxed my standards to prevent going crazy.



Occassionally for deep cleaning, I may hire someone to help out or pick a weekend to have at it. Day to day varies, but I try to pick an area to attack. Just remember, you can't do it all yourself. Just stick to your priorities ( I am sure your kids are at the center of all you do).

Lori - posted on 02/07/2009

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I aqm looking for answers too - my house is thrashed, my husband is laid off and I am working full time - help. How doe they do it???

User - posted on 02/07/2009

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I think I"ve FINALLY figured this one out. "They"....have a clean, organized house and work full time and have three kids because the house is the priority. You and I (even though I don't know you, judging by your picture, I'd say we would be friends! :-) ) put our families first. Now, the Health Department is not going to shut us down.....we keep it at least THAT clean...the rest, we can learn to live with as long our families are healthy and taken care of and we have a relationship with them. My two youngest are teeangers, and I can tell you it doesn't get a whole lot better....and that's okay. "They" are not being honest with themselves or anyone else. Repeat this mantra.....'Clean enough to be healthy....dirty enough to be happy'......and tell everyone, 'Excuse the mess, but we LIVE here.'......

Carolyn - posted on 02/07/2009

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I only have 1, he's 20 months and will help you pick up toys, well a little, and JUST as you get the toy box filled you stand up and he's dumping it out again.  he has this idea that mom and dad (whoever is home) needs to be there to play with me.  if you sit down tugs at your shirt, pants, whatever he can reach.  My husband works more then 40 hrs a week and commutes about 30 mins each way.  I work a couple of days a week or so less then 2 blocks from where we live and my son's home day care is in between our house and my work.  I'm in the same boat you are, I just can't keep up, which some days seems silly.  when my son goes for his nap in the afternoon i just like to peace and quiet and like to sit and use the comp in peace or read a book.

Renee - posted on 02/07/2009

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lord only knows! i have 3 year old and a one year old and it always looks like a tornado went through my house. it takes me a week to get the laundry folded and put away and im lucky if the floor gets swept everyday. i have just stopped worrying about it. anyone who comes over to my disaster is a friend and they like me if my house is clean or a pig pen. and those who dont can f**** off

Lisa - posted on 02/07/2009

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you're never going to have a 'perfect' house with kids. But if you have chore charts with stickers for each child, yes, even a 2 year old can learn to help, it will be a little neater. my daughters each had chore charts i cutumized to them and age approprate. Ex..put toys in box, clothes in hamper, make bed, put pots & pans in lower cabinets(who cares if they aren't as neat as you would like, they're in cabinets). They can even help dust wipe down door knobs, etc.. At the end of each week we would add their sticker for each girl and they would get their reward which was predeterined. new doll, trip for ice cream, movie, etc. I found it kept the house cleaner and gave them a sense of responsability and they learned how to help out. Being older now I know they offer to help out when they visit at relatives or friends houses now too. Not many kids do that nowadays! Good luck :)

Serena - posted on 02/07/2009

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Stuff the housework,it can wait!

Your kiddies won't be young forever leave the housework for one day and make the most of themxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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It's easy to keep your house clean if you are never in it....



As a mom that has worked both within and outside of the home, I can tell you that my house was cleaner when we were at work/school/daycare all day, but that my kids are happier now that we are home to mess it up after school. 



Having a place for everything helps, and it helps if the kids know what those places are.  We have "how-to" lists posted discreetly in every room that lists from start to finish how to clean that room, and we try to do one or two rooms per day, and the kitchen constantly.   With five kids at home, ranging in age from 9 to 18, we have roughly 3 loads of laundry daily and a non-stop battle with clutter.  The kids don't care, and the friends who are drop in are visiting the family, not the house.



Housework is like stringing beads on a thread with no knot at the end.  Even if you get it clean, it won't stay that way, so revel in it.  Enjoy the fact that your life is so full of other joys that you don't always find time for small stuff.  Wear mismatched socks because you didn't have time to sort the laundry.  You have bigger fish to fry.  Learn to put off until tomorrow what you could do today-- if you didn't have to read one more bedtime story or supervise a fleet of ducks in a bubble bath.  Your kids won't mind a bit.

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A lot of them have no life. They do not watch TV do not read a book and do not relax. Some of them it is just because they are REALLY organised. I have found that using microfiber cloths for cleaning cuts down on my cleaning time. But I also know that well trained husbands and kids for 'a place for everything, and everything in its place" really does work.

Just remember the important thing is are your kids loved, fed, clothed and educated. They are the important things not an immaculate house.

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Depending on the age of your kids - they can help. I have six and even my two year old likes to help pick up and clean. Yes, it is possible to always have an organized house, but I concentrate on reminding them to put their things away and remembering to pick up my own. Then we all clean together once a week...you can turn it into a game for them or offer some change for their piggy bank. Then we all crash out and watch a movie together. Good Luck.

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hi my name is kathleen i have 3 children i don't work but my attitude is the house work will still be there tommorrow so try to not let it get to you

Kathleen - posted on 02/06/2009

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hi my name is kathleen i have 3 children i don't work but my attitude is the house work will still be there tommorrow so try to not let it get to you

Kathleen - posted on 02/06/2009

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hi my name is kathleen i have 3 children i don't work but my attitude is the house work will still be there tommorrow so try to not let it get to you

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I totally agree with Amanda.  Those days will come when the toys are away for good and we'll probably all be sad that we have this nice, neat house and a completely empty nest!  I think another thing is, is that they're gone all day so who is there to mess it up?  They put their kids to bed at 6:30PM so there's barely enough time to play!  I truly feel bad for those that HAVE TO work but for so many, it's an easier choice.  I think this is why are world is not the same - no family values and kids being raised by people other than their parents. 

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I see it as my personal duty to provide a slight of entertainment to the genral public, especially mothers. I am glad a few of your drew a small bit of humor out of that, just as I did.

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Quoting Sarah:



They certainly don't.






Routines help, getting in a groove making sure certain things are done everyday (checkout flylady.com) but alas, life happens, events arise, children grow, and all that laundry and those dirty floors seem quite superficial when it comes down to it.






"Cleaning the house while people are still living in it, is like shoveling the walk while it is still snowing"






THANK YOU!  That quote is the laugh I needed to end my day on a good note!  Now I don't feel so bad knowing that tonight I'm leaving a few dishes in the sink and that tomorrow I will get my clothes from the clean laundry hamper.  My boyfriend even got a laugh when I read it to him!

Deb - posted on 02/06/2009

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i have a house full all the time and i just sit back and try and enjoy it. Pretty soon you will have an empty house so enjoy it while you can and the rest will fall into place and the house will be clean one day!!!!!!!!! Enjoy!!!!!!!!!! MAY GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!

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Quoting Sarah:



They certainly don't.






Routines help, getting in a groove making sure certain things are done everyday (checkout flylady.com) but alas, life happens, events arise, children grow, and all that laundry and those dirty floors seem quite superficial when it comes down to it.






"Cleaning the house while people are still living in it, is like shoveling the walk while it is still snowing"





"Cleaning the house while people are still living in it, is like shoveling the walk while it is still snowing"



I think that's just about the best thing I've ever 'heard'.   LOL!



 

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Quoting Sarah:



They certainly don't.






Routines help, getting in a groove making sure certain things are done everyday (checkout flylady.com) but alas, life happens, events arise, children grow, and all that laundry and those dirty floors seem quite superficial when it comes down to it.






"Cleaning the house while people are still living in it, is like shoveling the walk while it is still snowing"





"Cleaning the house while people are still living in it, is like shoveling the walk while it is still snowing"



I think that's just about the best thing I've ever 'heard'.   LOL!



 

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They certainly don't.



Routines help, getting in a groove making sure certain things are done everyday (checkout flylady.com) but alas, life happens, events arise, children grow, and all that laundry and those dirty floors seem quite superficial when it comes down to it.



"Cleaning the house while people are still living in it, is like shoveling the walk while it is still snowing"

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Just tell people that stop over that your house is perfectly clean by 'Playground' standards.   I have a 2 yr old that watches me put things away....and then goes and gets them and brings them back to me wherever I am.   I'm just happy that when she hands me something (that I just cleaned up) and I say  "thank you" she tries to say "you're welcome".  There'll be time to clean the house later.   Just enjoy your kids!!!



*hugs*



~Jenn~

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I agree with all the other mama's, however, I have a very hard time accepting my house being messy.  I try to stick to one room or chore at a time and when finished gives me a great sense of accomplishment.  For me a clean house makes for a happy mama...but, I can deal with a little bit of messiness so I don't miss out on my little man's life.  Don't be so hard on yourself and just try to take it one chore at a time. 

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Get a housekeeper and then you won't be so frustrated,  I found that once a week for a couple of hours or even every two weeks worked wonders.

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First of all, who are "they"? If you mean the mom's on T.V., they have help! :) For us regular mom's I have a couple pieces of advice if you want...I like to think that my house stays pretty put together and I have 2 kids, a dog, a husband, and a full time job.



1. I dont save anything I am not using. Everything has a use and a place. If its not being used its put in its place. I love those clear plastic bins, we put toys in them. All the potato heads stay together, etc...



2. Hire a house keeper. Before you say, you cant afford it, concider this: I gave up coffee shops twice a week, no fake nails for me, reduced my home phone options to bare-bones (no call waiting, no caller ID, etc), and cut off the HBO channel on cable and I was able to afford the $40.00 per week. You jsut have to make it work if it is important. Having a house keeper do all the grimy work once a week really helps keep us motivated to pick things up through out the week. plus the biggest benefit is that I dont have to spend all day saturday cleaning! I can go out with my hubby and kids and enjoy the weekend! No Latte or nail polish can top that!



I hope this helps. Good luck!

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