Amanda - posted on 12/13/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am a new step mother and my husbands daughter is 2 1/2 years old. Before i came along he was a typical guy and pretty much let his mother run the show with his visitation. He has been seperated from his ex since before the child was born and the divorce happened shortly after. He kind of got railroaded with his visitation because he didnt realize that he had rights as the father. I am from divorced parents myself and i know that a lot of the stuff he was told was incorrect. We are working on correcting the issues so that he has more time with his daughter and that it is meaningful time. Unfortunately through all this there has been a lot of changes in his schedule with her and a lot of changes with their relationship. We see the changes as good but we are now dealing with the effects of him letting his mother run the show for 2 years. His daughter gets upset all the time if he even hints that he is going to correct her. She gets very pouty and cries after she is told 'no.' Before my husbands' mother would give in and give whatever it is that she wanted to her and now I am not sure how to handle it. We dont want to give in and we havent, but how do we stop the pouting and crying? I dont think its a good idea to punish her for it because after all she is allowed to have feelings but i have had enough of the pouty attitude when she gets told no. Its not even a tantrum really.. she just acts like you broke her heart. I have been trying to do some research but both my husband and i are a little lost since I dont have children of my own and she is his only child so far.